What is the purpose of sex therapy?


sex therapy Since the aim of our services is to provide you with a happy and peaceful sexual life, it is a priority for you to understand the reasons for the difficulties you are experiencing and then to eliminate the problems or at least learn how to cope with them. The studies to be applied to correct the problems and reduce their effects are personal and include changing habits and general beliefs, resolving disagreements with your spouse or partner, reorganizing compelling emotions such as fear, shame, disgust or guilt, physical exercises, application of relaxation techniques, need It aims to enable you to take steps towards healing by incorporating innovations such as perception of emotions and feelings, opening up to the outside and similar innovations in your life. Apart from this, there are many topics related to what is happening in our body at different stages of sexuality and what functions are performed, such as how pleasure and erection occur (or how it disappears), what changes occur in our body, what role the brain and hormones play, and how orgasm is a function. It is aimed to strengthen the understanding of the myths and legends known about sex by supporting them with accurate and target-oriented information.

How does the sexual therapy process work?

sex therapy During the first meeting with you, the outline of the process and your wishes are determined together. In sexual therapy, first of all, an initial interview is held with you. This introductory meeting helps to form first impressions about your sexual problem and to obtain information about your previous solution attempts. In addition, thanks to this interview, information about both the determination of your complaint and the history of your sexual complaint is obtained. Following this initial analysis, you will be briefed on your situation shortly and any possible sex therapyor sexual counselingprocess will be determined.

After the first meeting, it will be recommended that you first consult with a specialist doctor. Because, before starting a sexual therapy, it should be determined by a specialist physician (urologist or gynecologist) whether there are physical obstacles and reasons that cause sexual difficulties, for example.

Sex therapy and Sexual Counseling can help you overcome the following problems and problems:

  • If you have an aversion to sex for a long time
  • Although you have a desire for sex, you cannot achieve an erection (erection disorder) or lubrication does not occur (vaginal lubrication cannot be achieved),
  • If you cannot experience orgasm (Vaginal, Clitoral and Anal Orgasm processes),
  • If you feel pain and pain during sexual intercourse or you can no longer get sexual pleasure from sex (if you experience painful sexual intercourse),
  • If you are experiencing premature ejaculation problems,
  • If you feel disgust or embarrassment during sex,
  • If you have concerns that you are a sex addict and this prevents you from living your life in a functional way,
  • If you cannot have intercourse with your partner due to vaginal cramps (vaginismus – inability to have sexual intercourse),
  • If you have difficulty explaining your sexual needs to your partner or are unable to have an experience that meets your needs,
  • If you have fears of sexual failure (performance anxiety),
  • If your sexual orientation causes internal or external problems and conflicts,
  • Sex therapies can be helpful for you with any fears about sex or your body.

Sexual crises, sexual problems and sexual dysfunctions

In sexual therapiessexual problems and crises, sexual relationship disorders, sexual functional disorders, sexual desire disorders and other sexual disorders are also discussed.

Some sexual disorders (such as difficulties in performing sexual activities or stimulating sexual desires) are frequently encountered. The disorders mentioned here are the partial and limited or no fulfillment of a certain function during sex. In addition, the fact that individuals find the act of sex disgusting or frightening may prevent their partners from experiencing sexual satisfaction during sex by causing them to restrict their feelings or completely disappear. Sometimes individuals may have little or no interest in sex, so sexual reluctance may occur, or on the contrary, in some individuals, sexual desire may increase to the level of extremism.

When ambiguity and inconsistencies begin to occur in sexual orientation, these sexual orientation conflicts are also focused on in sexual therapies. In the case of sexual disorders, special sexual preferences or a different sexual orientation that creates problems in the relations between the couples or prevents the continuation of this relationship, helping the couples to overcome these problematic periods successfully is one of the main purposes of sexual therapy. However, care is taken not to harm the heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual orientation in any fundamental way during the therapy.

sex therapy Before starting the process, it is necessary to comprehensively examine and clarify whether the sexual disorder is of organic origin or due to a disease. For this, first of all, it is determined whether medical intervention is necessary by a specialist physician (urologist – gynecologist). At this time, it should be revealed whether the sexual problems observed are primarily a part of a psychic disorder.

Sexuality is an issue that concerns all individuals. Since the subject of sex is one of the most private and sensitive areas of the individual, it is of great importance in terms of quality of life, life satisfaction and mental health, although it is often suppressed. Sex therapy helps to overcome all kinds of difficulties in the field of sex life. Sex therapy helps to overcome all kinds of problems and problems that arise repeatedly in our sexual behavior and sex life and cause conflict in relationships.

For sexual desires:

Spouses and partners desire to have sexual experiences, sometimes gradually, sometimes completely different, and to be able to fulfill their sexual desires. However, sometimes the sex experience desired and desired by one of the spouses may not be suitable for the wishes and desires of the other spouse. The sexual disagreement between couples due to this situation sometimes arises from the couple’s search for the right sexual change that suits both their own sexual desires and the couple status they live among. In this case, you should ask yourself basic questions about sex experiences that are relevant to your own pursuit of personal sex experience and to your relationship as a couple;

  • How can we achieve harmony as a couple?
  • Which personal requests cannot be met?
  • How can individual sex fantasies be realized while maintaining a harmonious sexual relationship between couples?

For single individuals, the following question is important;

  • What type of sexual relationship and which sexual profile is suitable for you?

What are the subjects within the scope of sexual counseling and sexual therapy?

sexual counseling A wide range of topics can be addressed during the services. The topics listed below can be discussed, as well as your personal questions. These;

  • Sex and sexuality as a single
  • sexual disagreements between couples
  • The importance of sex in long-term private life friendships
  • Sexual fidelity and infidelity
  • Sexual experiences in love affairs (secret and intimate secondary relationships)
  • Closed and open or multiple relationships
  • heterosexuality, bisexuality, homosexuality
  • Disputes between couples
  • Gay and heterosexual sex relationships
  • Active, passive, etc. during sex. adoption of roles
  • Questions about LGBTQ+ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Queer, Intersexual)
  • Sex in dark rooms, swinger clubs and orgies, especially in Western Europe
  • Self-gratification and sexting, cam sex, porn, internet
  • Sexuality, culture and religion (religious cultural values ​​and standards – cultural codes)

Appointment and date determination

Sexual Counseling and Sex Therapy Appointment dates for the patient are determined together with your therapist. However, it is not possible to predict the exact number of meetings to be held. The main recommendation in this context:

Interviews should be done as needed and as few as possible.

Sometimes talking about sex seems a very unusual topic. When talking about sex, people feel shame, perhaps for justified and valid reasons. Sex and our own sexuality are considered private matters. For this reason, it is important that the negotiations are conducted in a safe manner. Determining the course and format of the interviews by reaching a common decision with the clients and developing appropriate and common concepts to be used in the interviews is another issue to be considered. Your comments and suggestions regarding the sexual counseling service process are very important in terms of the counseling process and the therapist-client relationship.

Sexual Counselingand Sex Therapyour work “Deutsche Gesellschaft für Sexualforschung eV”We carry out in accordance with the norm of the German Association for Sexual Studies.

You can attend the interviews both individually and as a couple.

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Abdullah OZER

Social Worker, Scientist (Clinical Psychology)

Schools of Psychotherapy that he has been trained in:

  • Focusing (DFI)
  • Positive Psychotherapy (WAPP)
  • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy (CSU)
  • Ego State Therapy (EST-DE/ESTI)
  • Ericksonian Psychotherapy (MEG-DE)
  • Logotherapy and Existential Analysis (VFI-Wien)

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