Today, 1 in 5 marriages end in divorce. Especially in the first 2 years of marriage, the disagreements that we encounter frequently and the presence of two strangers trying to get to know each other in the same house show that divorces are accelerating. Although there are many reasons for divorce, when we examine the relationships that have come to an end or ended, it is seen that divorce is inevitable for some couples. In addition to these, many couples resort to couple therapy when they reach the final stage of divorce.
What is Couples Therapy?
Couples therapy is a type of therapy that addresses problems and communication disorders between partners. The therapists’ job here is not to end a relationship or keep it going. It aims to help partners understand each other, gain new relationship skills, change dysfunctional behaviors, and gain insights about themselves, their partners and their relationships, with different methods in line with the wishes of the partners. The main purpose of the therapy is to reduce the size of the discussions, to develop healthy discussion styles and to maintain the balance between the partners in line with the wishes of the partners. In addition to all these, ensuring a healthy separation is also one of the therapy services.
When Should We Go to Couples Therapy?
There is no human relationship without argument. Every relationship model includes discussion, and contrary to popular belief, discussions are dialogues that keep relationships alive and solid. What matters is the size, form, and end of the discussions. In other words, if the problems experienced are small, if you have problems in the solution phase, if you feel very worn out, if you cannot have a healthy discussion style and if your resentments take a long time, if you think that you do not understand or are not understood, if you are unhappy in this relationship, you should get couples therapy.
Most Common Reasons for Application:
Lack of Empathy
Clinging to the Past
Anger Control Problems
Failure to Take on Relationship Responsibility
Lack of Problem Solving Skills
My Wife Doesn’t Want to Participate, What Should I Do?
A very common scenario is one in which one of the partners rejects the situation. At this stage, pressure or threatening sentences such as ‘I will get divorced if you do not come, I will not talk to you if you do not accept therapy’ should never be used. Compulsory partner may lose their trust in therapy and their partner and may have difficulty in adapting to therapy. This difficulty can make the situation worse by causing the partner who chooses therapy to lose motivation about the relationship. If the person wishes, he can strengthen his personal development by continuing the therapy alone.
Many people think that the therapy room is full of accusations and criticism. However, if you share your experiences as a participant in the therapy and arouse curiosity, you can also indicate that an individual interview can be arranged.
How Should You Choose Your Therapist?
It is very important that you research your therapist before creating a session. A front meeting You can get together by requesting an appointment and ask your questions about the content of couples therapy. Client-counselor harmony is very important in therapy. Therefore, it may be a good idea to meet with your therapist, communicate, learn about his approach and the suitability of homework given during therapy before you set out on a journey.
How Many Sessions Does Couples Therapy Take?
During therapy, the responsibility of the therapy is the client’s own. Therefore, there is no clear answer to the question of how many sessions it takes. The problems people experience, how stereotyped these problems are, their size, people’s wishes, etc. The times vary according to the titles. For some clients, 8 sessions of therapy may mean shorter or longer for you.