Hello my dear readers. I heartily greet you all. Today I will talk to you about “anxiety”, which is a problem I frequently encounter in my psychotherapy sessions. Anxiety, in other words “anxiety”; We can define it as a state of constant fear, anxiety, tension, tremor, palpitation, dizziness, sweating and distress, which the individual develops against the situations that he perceives, makes sense, adds meaning, and interprets in his own inner world, metabolism or the outside world, and which he unfortunately cannot control. I describe all these mood states as “anxiety symptoms.” These symptoms concern the autonomic nervous system and are bodily indicators of anxiety. I will write about these symptoms in a little more detail in my next article. Of course, there are some thoughts under these anxiety symptoms. These are thoughts such as “I am in danger” or “There is a threat to me” or “I am not safe”. I think it is quite normal to feel anxiety from time to time in the hustle and bustle of life. Sometimes I think it should be. However, the daily activities and routines of individuals who experience this feeling of anxiety frequently and intensely are negatively affected.
Individuals experiencing anxiety have the feeling that bad things will happen as if they are in crisis situations where their fear-panic levels are high, and they think that this feeling happens in an extraordinary way. After this, they think that their situation is getting more and more dangerous and they develop a very high belief that they are not safe. This tendency may turn into a chronic disease in the future. Here, it is beneficial for the individual to be careful. Anxiety is not something to be taken lightly. Especially if it has become chronic In fact, anxiety is a frequently encountered condition in daily life. For example, let’s say the person is getting married. Doesn’t this person worry about what to wear before the wedding? Doesn’t it worry him that people think they’re observing him? If we give an example of a student again; Doesn’t the student who will take the exam experience anxiety before the exam? Especially if this exam is an important one, anxiety can be experienced very easily. Therefore, these examples show us that anxiety is an emotion that we experience in our daily life and even frequently encounter. Therefore, this anxiety is normal, natural and sometimes even necessary. After the wedding or after the exam is over, this worry-anxiety ends. However, if the anxiety still persists despite the passing of the important event that the individual expected, then it is possible to talk about the anxiety problem.
In the light of the examples I gave above, it is quite natural that the following questions arise. So what is normal anxiety or what is abnormal anxiety? What is the difference between the two? How can we tell if the anxiety we experience is normal or abnormal? Let’s start with the abnormal anxiety. Anxiety that is abnormal; Anxiety is manifested without any stimulus, it occurs, and it recurs frequently. Abnormal anxiety bothers the person. Abnormal anxiety is excessive. Abnormal anxiety occurs disproportionately. abnormal anxiety; lives uncontrollably and the individual has serious difficulties in controlling it. Abnormal anxiety can occur even where you are sitting, which is how it usually happens. In other words, the individual can develop anxiety without being exposed to anything. For example, the mother sent her child to school and is sitting at home, thinking for a moment and saying, “I wonder if something happens to my child”, “if something bad happens to him”, “no one helps”, “then what will I do”. If you notice, the mother developed anxiety in her seat, although she was not exposed to anything, although she did not experience anything, nothing happened in front of her. Such anxiety, that is, abnormal anxiety, interferes with the routines of the individual and exploits his life energy. Eventually, it gradually becomes a health problem. Such an anxiety cannot be overcome by itself, the individual may need support from a psychologist and maybe even take medication from a psychiatrist. In addition, it is necessary to start this path, that is, therapies, as early as possible. Normal anxiety is natural. Occurs during the anticipated important event. One doesn’t have much trouble controlling it. It is even necessary. It protects the person against dangers and threats. It motivates the individual. It enables the individual to take action. After the event or situation that the individual cares about passes, his anxiety also decreases and his anxiety ends within hours.
Most of us are surrounded by people who are apprehensive and worried. Perhaps you, who are reading this article, can also be apprehensive. If you always think that something bad will happen to you and your loved ones, and therefore you are constantly worried about their health and you call frequently, there is a problem here. For example, you are sitting at home and you will start work tomorrow. Although there was no incident, “I wonder if the boss will be angry with me tomorrow?” or “the phone is ringing, has something bad happened?” or “could I experience something bad if I go out on the street?” If such thoughts are running through your mind, you may have an anxiety problem. Especially if the person does not think about all these scenarios and does not go out of the house, if he does not dare to go out; Anxiety problem has turned into illness. If there is such a thing, you will try to cope with this anxiety problem by yourself and try to get rid of this problem and overcome it. Yes, this individual effort you have made or will make is a very, very valuable, valuable and admirable act. However, instead of making this individual effort, as I mentioned above, immediately go to the psychologist without wasting any time. Your psychologist’s effort and yours will combine and you will overcome this together.
Remember that you and only you experience anxiety. Other people around you are not experiencing this. Since they do not experience this anxiety, it may be a little difficult for those around you, those around you, those you are in contact with, and even your family to understand you. In fact, all these people around you; “don’t worry about it, don’t worry about it, but you too, forget about it, there is no such thing, you are just ranting about yourself, think a little positive, I think you think positive, enjoy your life, why do you think, look, you are in good health, I think You’re crazy, you’re crazy”. Yes, in the face of such a problem, unfortunately, it is very, very possible to hear such sentences from your interlocutors. but s Akın, there is no need to be deceived by such sentences and fall into despondency, despair and despair. Yes, this is a problem, and when experiencing such a problem, people want their interlocutors to understand and support them. But don’t expect them to empathize with you, put themselves in your place, and ultimately understand you, as these people around you have not experienced such a problem before. Because this expectation has the potential to cause disappointment in you. Because, as I said before, these are the sentences that people make and use, unfortunately.
Let’s get together, dear reader. Anxiety is of two kinds. It has normal and abnormal. Since you are experiencing this anxiety, you need support. And the address of this support is psychologist. To yourself and your soul; Be kind and good, my dear reader. Hope to meet you in my next article…