What can I do in times of crisis with my child?

Attitudes of parents have an important place in the psychology of children. Sometimes, despite all the good intentions, those undesirable wars and moments of crisis eventually break out. Trying to solve the crisis, trying to talk, trying to calm down, etc. behaviors can sometimes accelerate this negative situation. So, how should one approach the child in these moments of crisis? What can be done? This has no pill information because every child is different and unique. Every situation is unique to itself. Children learn their physical characteristics by looking in the mirror. They learn to recognize their emotions by listening to the emotions reflected on them. They reflect the visible as it is. When we are in strong emotions, it is most important to have someone who listens and understands us. The parent, who guides the child who does not recognize and understand his feelings yet, is an important support in his development process. In order for him to learn to control his anger in the future, we must first make him feel that we understand his emotion. At this point, it would be appropriate to refer to Daniel Siegel’s “Whole Brain Child” philosophy: Our minds have two sides. One side is about emotions, the other side is about logic. If we are in an emotional intensity, if the other person comes to us with something logical at that time, we push him back. So does the child. Whatever he was angry about now, when he was in that emotional intensity: “Yes, I understand. Right now, you’re angry for this and that reason. I used to feel the same way as you do when I was younger.” If we are talking about the age of 0-3, it is important that we reassure him at that moment and make him feel that we understand his feelings, by making bodily contact there, speaking slowly, with a calm tone of voice, and by acting calmly and thus trying to bring his mood down.

What should not be forgotten is that nothing to be said or done in a crisis will be effective. This can be described as an inevitable wave. After teasing and calming down, the subject can be talked about according to the child’s age and emotional maturity. By naming the emotions that the child is experiencing at that moment (such as anger, disappointment, sadness) it can be helped to recognize his emotions and make sense of these emotions. What can be done in the face of similar situations that may be encountered in the future can be reviewed together.

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