The psycho-social development of children is shaped by their families and the environment they live in. Parents are the first representation of the outside world for children, so they are the most important determinant of the child’s view of life. The approach of the parents towards their children, their attitudes and the language they use are very important because the language learned here will be the way the child speaks to himself. When parents communicate with their children correctly, they take the most important step towards their psychological development, so that children who can communicate in a healthy way in their inner world turn into adults who can have a healthy environment and lead a happy life.
The foundations of communication are laid in the first years of life. From this period onwards, children learn to cope with problems, accept and seek solutions. In this process, healthy communication with the child affects the child in many areas throughout his life. The correct structuring of communication dynamics, which has such a wide range of influence, is possible by knowing and applying the do’s and don’ts in this regard.
What should we do for effective and healthy communication?
The basic principle of healthy communication with children is to accept the child unconditionally, respect their wishes and thoughts and give importance to their ideas. The basic building block that makes communication strong is unconditional acceptance. Even when exhibiting undesirable behavior, the child should know that only his behavior, not his personality, is approved.
Listening to the child effectively is also a very useful method to give the child a sense of being understood. active listening; It requires not interrupting by making eye contact, opening up what the child is saying. In this way, you can better understand and support your child. When talking to children, being respectful as if you are talking to an adult, and being patient and compassionate without forgetting that you are talking to a child makes communication stronger.
When talking to children, it also makes them feel good and safe when you approach them as an understanding and supportive guide rather than being critical and judgmental. At the same time, one of the most important factors for healthy communication is to spend time with children and to share with them. Spend as much time as possible with your child and make him feel that this time is very valuable to you.
What Should We Do?
Another point as important as using healthy methods in communicating with children is to stay away from communication patterns that will make the child feel bad. The effects of these methods, which are sometimes not even noticed to be wrong, on children are quite permanent and intense. These;
Using imperative sentences
Making decisions on behalf of the child without seeking their opinion
Indifference, not taking it seriously, being interested in something else when the child is talking
not making eye contact
Keeping a distance that makes you feel distant in the field of communication
Making hints with gestures and facial expressions
Negative use of body language (head movements, shaking of feet, etc.)
Threatening the child with something he loves
Constantly criticizing and questioning
Making unnecessary warnings against the child’s every behavior
Making comments without understanding the child
A child who feels that he is not listened to or understood by his parents has difficulty in communicating with people around him, avoids or closes himself completely. One of the most important situations in child development is to be able to communicate well with children and to help them achieve this communication. During this effort, remember that wrong communication builds walls, right communication builds bridges. Wishing you and your children to build bridges to the future…