I cannot get my child off the computer. No matter what I do, he does not give up on computer games. Endless arguments at home because of computers or smart tablets…
So, has it worked so far when you say turn off the computer, or did you find a healthy solution when you impose bans?
While the computer, one of the important inventions of the twentieth century, has begun to take an increasingly important place in human life; We ask our children to distance themselves from something that makes our lives so easy. However, from the point of view of children, it is a fact that the computer has positive contributions to education and development if it is evaluated well.
Every child is curious and every child has a sense of competition. We can encourage these feelings of curiosity and competition in children and enable them to focus their attention on a particular subject. In addition, this type of research helps children’s cognitive development, planning and problem-solving skills.
It also contributes to the development of computer, writing and communication skills. The child needs to share their thoughts before writing. While thinking about how to write, it supports his effective learning by reading. As long as the child is interested, the computer functions as a free teacher. It also gives the student the opportunity to succeed in the lessons that he could not succeed in school on his own.
It is accepted that appropriate computer activities in preschool education programs are important especially because they contribute to hand-eye coordination. While the cognitive processes of children are supported, their intellectual development is supported simultaneously.
Another consideration is the perspective of families and the social environment towards games. We often have misconceptions that many games harm our children and even disrupt their psychology. Suitable for children’s ages, non-violent and non-aggressive; It can be said that playing computer games that support the development of intelligence under the supervision of parents and as long as they see fit gives positive support to the mental development of children.
So should we ban it? How should we find solutions?
Do not ban! Set limitations.
Generally, one of our solutions to remove our children from the computer is to completely eliminate the computer. This leads to violent arguments and growing tensions within the family. However, if we determine the time they will spend with our children on the computer and the internet and talk with clear rules about what can happen when they exceed this time, we will have less difficulty.
Keep his work under control as well as the time he spends at the computer until he reaches a certain level of consciousness..
In fact, everything starts with a little attention… As in everything else, tending to your children, talking about their needs and capturing the emotions they feel while playing the computer… Thinking about alternatives where you can make them feel the same emotions and presenting these alternatives to them from a different perspective… Yes, there are many things we can do as parents. . It is at least as valuable as setting a rule to keep track of the work done by our children, as well as the time they spend in front of the computer until they reach a certain level of consciousness.
Be a good model for them!
Being a parent is pretty hard, isn’t it? Endless duties and constantly renewing ourselves in terms of parenting are also part of this challenge.
Children are like an empty machine. They take what they see from their parents and develop it further and present a new model. If we want to have a say in our children’s use of computers, we must first draw our own boundaries and return to ourselves. If a mother constantly has a phone in her hand and has trouble even making eye contact, or if a father comes home in the evening and exaggerates the time spent on the computer or television, it is impossible for our children not to be technology monsters tomorrow…
If you are a computer user, set a positive example for your child by not spending too much time in front of the computer at home. If your child uses the internet, determine the list of sites that are suitable for him together and control the sites he visits. Get software suitable for children’s educational goals and share together. Share your children’s work, achievements on the computer and guide them in a good way.
If you don’t set limits at a young age, they will parent you in adolescence!
When we look at the child-parent relationship, sometimes the roles conflict. It is as if our children are behaving like the parents of their parents, and we can say that this situation becomes frustrating for the parents. Around us, we often encounter adolescents who command their parents and humiliate their parents in a slightly sarcastic manner against the rules. This is valid for every subject and also applies to the use of technologies such as computers and tablets.
It is important for your child to be able to provide self-control about computer and internet use. Because in adolescents, parents trying to establish authority will cause constant conflicts and it will be a process that wears out the family, youth and children. Therefore, the most important thing to be dealt with at a younger age is to set boundaries for children and to raise individuals who can do their own internal control when they reach adolescence.
You can give mini-education to your children.
Warn your child about the dangers that may arise from computer and internet use and let them know that you are a follower. Warn your child not to share confidential and personal information, not to transmit pictures and images, not to participate in fights and discussions with people over the internet.
You can give a mini-training on the protection of personal information and violation of borders. You can warn them about where the information entered in a practical way can reach, and thus they are hidden from you, that you do not trust; You will also prevent them from being in environments that you cannot control (internet cafe, etc.).