Unnamed violence: passive-aggressive violence

Yes, it is an indisputable fact that in psychotherapy rooms, we mostly work with the victims of those who have real problems. There have been many occasions when the survivor of violence has been brought to therapy by the perpetrator.

It is obvious that the violence continues with the words of a perpetrator of violence, who says there is no problem with me, the problem is with my wife/child. Or playing the victim: You drove me crazy… You pissed me off… I wasn’t really that kind of person… Someone had to stop him… It shows that violence will continue by systematically blaming the victim’s self.

The perpetrators of violence already use the word “nervous” instead of the word “anger”. Being angry gives it a status and therefore as if it is a right…

There is another very common and destructive form of violence that we are subjected to throughout our lifetimes, even from those we love most, even when our communication seems normal. passive aggressive violence

Here are the examples:

The person who starts to feel too monotonous in his life to break up with a partner whose environment is perfect by his family and realizes that he is looking for other things, but does not know how to say it, and puts the thought that I do not want to hurt him, if he does not say that he wants to leave and acts constantly unhappy and unsatisfied, but does not complain about anything. It contains passive-aggressive violence from beginning to end. Both tripping and callousness are passive-aggressive violence (by the way, I apologize to our young girls for whom I describe their national attitudes like this).

Instead of talking about the problem directly, sabotaging the relationship and thus not taking responsibility is also passive aggressive violence.

He doesn’t know why he left. The burden left behind prevents it from causing a new beginning for a long time.

According to experts, this situation is extremely common today, especially among young people in their 20s, and the main reason for this is that there are many ways to communicate other than face-to-face due to the technology of our age.

Most people now only care about what is good for them and not so much about the thoughts and feelings of others.

Let’s face it, what we define as hurtful jokes or those who are taken from the joke we make is actually passive-aggressive violence.

The indirect speech often ends up with passive-aggressive violence with sarcastic and suggestive words. Or, the fact that one side is always right in the husband-wife relationship, with the effect of manipulation, unfortunately leads to the same point.

Passive-aggressive people can also become undesirable in the business environment due to their tendency to disrupt work, delay and sabotage the team spirit.

Those who are not satisfied with the work they do and those who are not successful at the rate of their potential are also in the risk group in this regard.

Families of our age are exposed to passive-aggressive violence to their families by their adolescent or protracted adolescent children, with their demands/imposition of high standards that do not comply with family realities, and their failure to take responsibility for life. The son who says to his families that I am unhappy because of you, if you want to be a good family, you know the things that will make me happy, you do not do, also applies passive-aggressive violence. Its victims walk among us unhappy and unjust, and its practitioners right, normal, and self-confident.

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