Toilet Training in Children ; Dear parents… With the warming of the weather, it is time to give your children toilet training. Toilet training is a sensitive process that is healthier to give in the summer. Keeping in mind that each child has different developmental stages, a correct education should be given by taking into account the temperamental characteristics of your child.
Knowing if the child is ready is the first step. You should thoroughly assess whether your child is ready, both physiologically and emotionally. Follow the signals in your child’s movements. If he is curious about poop and pee; if he asks questions about it and is uncomfortable doing it to his diapers; This type of behavior is a sign of readiness.
If your child is ready, there is no better time than summer. Of course, this is valid if you are not one of those who spend the summer on vacation all the time… If you do not plan to spend a summer vacation by staying in a fixed place or if there is a change in your life (like moving, changing the city), my advice to you would be not to enter this period. It is very important that the child feels safe in this process and that the interventions are the same for everyone. If the parent is worried, the child will also be worried.
Do not declare toilet training a state of emergency!
Usually, for some parents, a state of emergency is declared during this process. Excessive sensitivity, giving up on routines in our daily life or constantly following the child in eye marking, excessive attention… The child should not experience this process differently from the natural process… The family should get rid of the excessive exaggeration and approach the child with a normal feeling as usual. Otherwise, the child will code the exaggerated attention with poop or pee. He will direct the same exaggerated attention to his poop and pee. This may cause other problems.
The choice of potty should be left to the child!
If cognitively good information has been given and now we have created something related to toilet training in the child’s mind; The second stage will be potty or toilet shopping. You can tell your children that they can make their toilet into a potty or closet by offering alternative solutions. You can shop for a toilet seat adapter or potty with your child. In this way, you can sit your child down and ask which one is comfortable and offer your child the chance to choose.
On the other hand, the child does not want to let go of control. During these periods when they start to gain autonomy, the child should have information about their potty. In this context, he can tinker with his potty, look at what’s where; You can attach and detach parts. You know kids love repair work. You ask why? Because the child feels a sense of belonging to the things he can tamper with and the things he can repair. The child who feels a sense of belonging also attaches great importance to this event. Then let’s raise children who are curious, fidgety, put on and take off. More questions, more feeling and more belonging… And of course, more poop…
You have to stop being overzealous!
Yes dear parents… Toilet training in children We must put our obsessions aside now. This is a very difficult process for those who are obsessed with excessive cleaning, but do not be afraid, maybe this process heals you; It can also be a healing process. One of the mistakes made in this process is to lay something layered under many things the child plays, sits, and lies on… This will not only impair the child’s functionality, but will also not provide comfort to the child. The child who is not comfortable will either hold it when he poops, or he will perform behaviors such as hiding and hiding.
Engage in tempting games or creative activities to get her to sit on the toilet or potty!
The habit of sitting regularly is just as important as making the time enjoyable. Make your children sit on the toilet tidy and happily. He doesn’t have to do anything, it’s important to get used to it. Aim to sit up 3 times a day. In general, after meals, you can turn the toilet time into an advantage when the stomach is full.
On the other hand, the subject I focus on is turning this action into fun… “How about sitting on the potty”. Entertaining the child with sentences such as “I will read you a very good story”… Gradually increase the child’s sitting time on the toilet. Keep a game or a special book in the bathroom to use while sitting on the toilet, sing songs. Be sure to praise the effort of the child to sit there, brag about it. Later, if your child poops or pees, play with the toilet and flush. Kids love to watch their poop go away. Play with your child’s psychology from time to time. Give positive clues with this move of hers. For example: “If you poop, we will throw out all your diapers and make the laundry bigger.”
Finally, you have tried everything and if you are still having trouble somewhere and your child is resisting this process, you should still be very patient. Some children can’t get out of the comfort of the diaper as much as they want to. Or they may have developed some fears about the toilet. When you encounter such a situation, you can get a short-term psychologist support. This will comfort you as a parent and you will discover what your child needs in this process.
When it comes to the happy ending, don’t give exaggerated rewards or excessive happiness!
If your child is now urinating and defecating, do not overdo the excitement as in everything else. No need to buy expensive gifts, toys for your child. Appreciate him, tell him you love him so much. Do not use result-oriented sentences like “Look, you’ve succeeded, my successful son/daughter is mine”. Appreciate and support the process.