We are getting rid of diapers this summer!! HELP
Toilet training is the ability of the child to gain control of stool and urine and to realize that the toilet is coming without a reminder and to meet his needs. This education is one of the important developmental tasks of early childhood. For families, this process can be difficult and painful.
There is no definite date for toilet training in children. Particularly in the spring and summer months, some of the water in the body is excreted through sweat and the child’s bladder is not filled enough to force it. For this reason, giving toilet training in this period can lead to success in a short time. The average age range for toilet training is between 18 months and 3 years, but each child has his or her own right time based on their developmental characteristics. Trying to start this education before the child’s time can cause fear and conflict. The oppressive attitudes of the parents may cause the child to have tendencies such as perfectionism and excessive meticulousness in adulthood. In this process, it is important for parents to adopt an encouraging and encouraging attitude.
One of the most useful methods that can be used in this process is the HELP rule. This rule consists of 4 basic points:
Stand back and watch (hold yourself back)
Stand back and watch to decide if it’s the right time for the child to toilet train. The diaper can stay dry for as long as 3-4 hours, so instead of urinating little and often, the child may hold the toilet for a while and then do it. He can sit in the same position for about 5 minutes. Gross motor skills such as walking, sitting and squatting are developed. He feels uneasy when he gets his diaper dirty, he notices that the diaper is wet and dirty and feels uncomfortable about it. He/she can express his/her toilet needs verbally or non-verbally. If he wakes up with a dry diaper and imitates you on the toilet, he may be understanding and fulfilling your commands. If there are such signs, we can say that the child is ready for toilet training.
Support exploration (encourage exploration)
Every time he changes his diaper, explain this to him. If he has pooped, he should see it while you pour it into the toilet, and even the toilet should be flushed together; Of course, their hands should be washed well afterwards. It can also be tempting to put a favorite toy in front of the potty. It is necessary to prepare a fun environment for the child during the education. Sitting while the child is on the potty and waiting for him may not bring results most of the time, as it can make the child uneasy. The important points of this condition are to start training a little after waking up in the morning, to talk to him during this time, to play games, to sit on the potty 20 minutes after having a drink.
Set limit (limit)
The time the potty sits should not exceed 2-3 minutes at the beginning. This training can be challenging for children and families, however, it is very important for the process to always have a peaceful expression on the face of the mother or father.
Praise and applaud your child who goes to the potty. Small gestures such as clapping and smiling are more effective than long, verbal explanations.
If the parents are angry, angry or humiliating their child during this period, the child will panic and fear and cannot gain the toilet habit. Parents should support their child by enjoying this period with great maturity.
Despite all these situations, if the child has reached the age of 3-4 and still has not gained the toilet habit, a specialist should be consulted.