First of all, before children start toilet training, parents should be ready for this process.
Toilet training is child-centered and should be trained taking into account individual development. Each child’s level of readiness for toilet training differs.
So when are they ready for toilet training?
It is aimed to gain toilet training between 18 -36 months.
-The child has gained a social awareness.
– Being able to notice when he comes to the toilet and tell it with signs even if he doesn’t speak.
– Being able to stay dry for at least two hours during the day and being able to wake up dry after a short sleep.
-If he’s trying to imitate you and sit on the toilet.
THE ROLE AND IMPORTANCE OF PARENT ATTITUDE IN TOILET EDUCATION
Homes are safe places for children. Starting toilet training at home is important for the child to feel comfortable.
From the moment the training begins, we must display a completely positive, patient and determined attitude. Some children may experience fear of sitting on the toilet. Children in the anal stage, which we call the psychosexual developmental stage, defecate; there may be a fear of leaving a piece of themselves in the toilet, a fear of falling in, that they will fall or be sucked in with the flush.
Get a seat that can be applied to the potty or toilet according to your child’s height. It is very important that your feet touch the ground and a sense of confidence will develop.
– When it first starts, it can be made to sit on the potty with a cloth, then the diaper can be removed if it is ready. Encourage her to use the potty. Consider the necessity. Let him know that he can use it whenever he feels ready.
-It may slip under the toilet from time to time during the toilet training process. Don’t get angry, punish or threaten, this can cause anything from stuttering to depression. This is normal and may take time as you learn to use your muscles.
– Rewards can work when the toilet is used properly. You can also give praise (well done, you’re great).
-Usually, the daytime problem is solved earlier, the night control may stay weeks or months later. Reducing your fluid intake in the evening will increase the number of dry nights.
Psychologically, problems in peer relationships at school and negativities in academic success may cause urinary incontinence at night.
Another reason may be sibling jealousy as a sign of regression. The child sometimes expresses in regressions rather than words. He expresses this as ‘I am here too, take care of me or play games’. It is very important for the family to establish this balance and achieve harmony or be aware of this situation.
What is enuresis (bedwetting)?
It is the involuntary leakage of urine, day or night, in a child older than five years of age. Enuresis is defined as urinary incontinence during sleep at least twice a week for at least 3 months.
What are the causes of bedwetting?
Genetic causes, bladder problems, sleep problems, delay in the development of the central nervous system, hormonal factors, drugs and diseases.
Is bedwetting a psychological problem?
If bedwetting cannot be explained by a physical reason, or if a microbial or organic cause cannot be found, then a psychological problem is sought in the family or the child.
Psychological causes of enuresis
• Improper toilet training
• Early or late start of toilet training
• Having a new sibling and sibling jealousy
• Life events in the family such as domestic violence, divorce, illness, accident or traumatic situations
• Overprotective or anxious parental attitude
• Genetic causes; that is, any inherited bedwetting in the family.
• Inability to go to the toilet at night as a result of deep sleep.
• Difficulties at school (friend relations, performance problems in academic success, etc.)
He can keep a diary. Each day, questions about what happened during that day, what was felt, what happened there, how that feeling went and how you coped with it can be written and asked to be answered. Ask the children to fill in this notebook for each day. If there is a bedwetting, draw something or stick a sticker with your child on those days. It will help the child understand himself. According to the result of the week, we should understand the dominant emotion and create a plan by focusing on it. We should aim to eliminate the problem of bedwetting by talking about these feelings, raising the awareness of the family, and most importantly giving control to the child.