The Loneliness That Comes With Sociootelism

“In the future there is loneliness again, that insipid, useless life.” (Fyodor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky, White nights)

And who would have thought that in that future, children would recognize their mothers on tablet and phone screens without seeing their faces… (Esra Canpolat)

To drink tea after dinner, one sits on the sofa with the best angle to the television, either watches television and/or follows up on social media in detail. If television is not a good option, you can play games with a computer or tablet, follow the daily news, fiddle with the photo gallery to decide which photo will be added as #hashtag (keyword) tbt (Throw Back Thursday), or never at all, take a quick selfie and see how much via social media. A photo that shows you are happy and beautiful can be shared. In fact, if you look back 30 years ago, you will see people who will never understand these activities that we have turned into routine activities.

In the very recent past, human beings have encountered many concepts such as technology, internet, computers, tablets, smartphones, television, digital games, social media, artificial intelligence and virtual reality. We, who hosted many of these innovations before we even had a chance to evaluate them, made these technologies that came to our house as guests, and made them our closest ones. Among all these innovations, mobile phones or smart phones are the most easily accessible and portable ones for us, while the internet has become one of the sine qua non of these devices. The rate in the statement “it happened” was 80.7% in 2017 data and 83.8% in 2018 data (TÜİK,2016;2017;2018). According to the first quarter data of 2016, 94.9% of Turkey’s population uses the internet almost every day or at least once a week.

If we consider that it consists of individuals and that social media is the first among the purposes of internet use, we can see how much the internet and social networking sites are in our lives (TÜİK, 2016). In this context, it is necessary to think about the pathological consequences of being so close to the internet via smart phones and the intense use of social media. One of the problems that can be considered pathological is the concept of “”, which is a popular concept at the beginning of the last period. sociootelism ” is happening. So what is this sociotelism? Sociothelism is a disorder that we can encounter frequently and may even be unconsciously involved in. The expression Phubbing in English simply means ignoring the people around because of the interest in the smartphone (Karadağ et al., 2016). The fact that smart phones facilitate internet access and can host many applications threaten people with internet addiction as well as social media, game and even application addiction; which is the best proof that sociotelism actually consists of a multidimensional structure, not a one-dimensional structure.

What happened to the people who were actually around, while people were ignoring the people around them? Where are they now? Maybe they’re where they’ve always been, but for addicted sociotheists, they’re just a dry crowd. No matter how many people are around, a sociothelist refuses to communicate, ignores those around them, and places the virtual environment he literally created for himself above his real life. In case of phone withdrawal, anxiety, worry (Park, 2005), impulsivity (Billieux, Van der Linden & Rochat, 2008) and some arousal states (Leung, 2008) occur. After experiencing all these emotions, it becomes quite normal for people to experience situations such as fear, isolation and loneliness, followed by identity problems and depression. By isolating themselves from the large groups they have, they damage their social commitment and do not see themselves as a meaningful part of the groups they have (Mesch, 2001; Valkenburg & Peter, 2009; Shen & Williams, 2011); This drives them into a vacuum.

Owning a phone, feeling as if there is nothing more valuable than it in the world (Türk Telekom, 2008*; cited in Karadağ et al., 2016) and having a fun/good time by integrating with it, even if it provides satisfaction in the short term and makes you feel that you do not need a social environment. We will understand its long-term effects when the “App Generation”** reaches their 60s and 70s. And finally, a piece of advice with lots of commas: Come before you experience that the lives you think you have under control are beyond your control, that you don’t even have a real life left, that you don’t have a real structure to feel that you belong to, that you lose both your self-respect and respect for your surroundings, instead of #NoFilter your photos. let’s make it into our lives and live our lives as they are, with all its naturalness.

* An article written about 90% of young people reporting the item they fear losing most in life as a smartphone,

** A book by education professors Howard Gardner and Katie Davis, which analyzes a seven-year research program examining the effects of the digital world on children and youth.’

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