THE FUTURE OF SOCIETY; IT IS RELATED TO THE INDIVIDUALS THAT FORM IT TO BE BROUGHT IN A HEALTHY WAY.
Self-Esteem: The degree to which an individual perceives himself as sufficient, important, and valuable.
In order to be able to notice and change, it is necessary to question first; then the way to reach awareness is opened. For this reason, I would like you to first ask yourself the following questions in order to make a change in this regard.
SO, AM I AWARE?
The roles I take, my existence; as small as I thought and “oh what?” It’s not ineffective enough to say and continue doing what I say!
«ONE WORD HAS A GREAT INFLUENCE»
hate language-critical language-judgmental language-defensive language; these are behaviors that lower self-esteem, self-perception, make them vulnerable to an uncertain world, and render them inactive. A person grows by actions done with words spoken.
Research findings; shows that high self-esteem leads to a positive development in mental, emotional, moral and social aspects.
The following characteristics are observed in individuals with low self-esteem;
They see themselves as inadequate and worthless.
They think that they do not have the power to cope with events,
They are easily influenced.
They often experience feelings of guilt and shame.
They do not trust themselves and other people and show inadequacy in human relations,
They do not engage in close relationships with the fear of being hurt, they avoid relationships of love and friendship.
Their anxiety levels are quite high, and they try to keep their wishes and desires under pressure.
In addition, studies have shown that insufficient self-esteem leads to an excessively rigid viewpoint, dependence on authority, introverted and passive behaviors, aggressive behaviors and a personality structure that is prone to committing crimes.
It has been revealed that the family environment and parental attitudes are much more effective in the development of self-esteem than the other factors examined.
One of the basic psychological needs of man is to exchange love and establish friendly relations with other people. The individual needs to be accepted and approved by others.
As a result of the attitudes and behaviors of people who are important to the child, the child either respects himself, gains confidence by revealing his own values, and in this way reaches self-esteem or the opposite occurs.
It is important for the child to be adopted by showing unconditional love and acceptance in the development of the sense of self-esteem. The adoptive-democratic attitude, which is determined by the close attention shown to the child, taking into account his needs, trying to spare time for the child, guiding when faced with problems, is also considered important in the development and continuity of self-esteem.
“Where there is no conversation, there is no life.” Albert Camus
For a child to feel safe, it is extremely important for someone to be able to “handle the world better”.
It is important that the parent be reliable and predictable!
The parent (caregiver) is the person who establishes a close relationship with his child since infancy and feels with him, is together and does it together. The interaction between parents and their babies is filled with fun games that provide emotional attachment. Many traditional baby games, such as “cee-ee, belly blowing, I got you,” allow the baby to interact with the adult and maintain the appropriate level of arousal. As a result, the child feels that he or she is “seen” by someone else and is “a valued individual”. The message here is: “You are not alone in this world. You are amazing and very special to me. You can also manage to interact appropriately with others.”
When we structure ourselves and our words to convey this message, we can restore children’s self-esteem and contribute to a child’s belief change.
Punishments, criticism, embarrassment, conditional giving of love, lack of appreciation for success, labels, loveless environment, stressful home environment, parents’ problems with each other
All of these are behaviors that lower self-esteem and damage relationships.
YOU CAN LEARN HOW TO BE DIFFERENT AND PREFER TO DO DIFFERENTLY!