Even though I have my phone with me, I am constantly checking it… If my phone does not pick up or it is turned off, I feel extreme anger and anxiety… Since I will turn off my phone, I stay away from activities such as movies and theaters unless I have to… Even though I know that there is no call or message notification, I cannot stop checking my phone all the time…
How familiar do these expressions sound? With the development of increasing technology in recent years, mobile phones have become indispensable. He even became so integrated with us that we felt incomplete when he was not with us. The fear of being disconnected from the communication provided by the mobile phone reveals the nomophobic situation.
The fear of being deprived of a mobile phone, which is more common especially among young people, has also become widespread in our country.
Cell phone and social media addiction works just like the mechanism in other addictions. The same effects are seen in nomophobia, just as the person experiences withdrawal symptoms when he cannot reach the thing he is addicted to and needs more and more. What lies behind this fear, which can be described as a phobia of the modern age, is the feelings such as loneliness, isolation and fear triggered by the modern age.
People are lonely, people lack love…
Today, with the increasing age of technology, there is actually a decrease in real communication. With the decrease in face-to-face meetings and the environments where real quality time is spent, the society is trying to ensure its existence through technology.
Think about it, we even have many ideas about a friend we haven’t seen for months. Thanks to technology, we know what he wears, where he goes with his friend, what job he works in, and even how he is in his emotional relationships. As people normalize these situations over time, there is a decrease in face-to-face, one-to-one real conversations.
Because we try to satisfy the emotion we call “longing” through social media, people prefer to stay away from real sacrifices for each other.
Another fundamental issue is lovelessness. We cannot talk about real love and attention in a society where there is no real contact, no physical interaction, and one cannot express love and emotions. This makes people lonely now. Unfortunately, we normalize this situation because we are not truly aware of our problem of being alone and our need for love. We reinforce our social isolation by approaching the events with logical and defensive sentences with sentences such as “We have a busy work schedule, we can’t see each other.” Thus, we become more dependent individuals who attach more meaning to technology. Every moment we touch our phone, which is at hand, is exciting to us and makes many people feel safe.
We must be good observers and strong communicators about children!
We will not expect great human behavior from children, but we will talk to them like adults… Abstract thinking and conceptual thinking are not developed in children in the 0-6 age group. Therefore, they cannot symbolize events, confuse the concrete and the intangible, accept threats as normal or fear them. If there is supervision of parents and good communication within the family, they can tell the wrongs in the language of their children in a cause-effect relationship. If there is no good communication and especially if there is neglect at home, the child cannot learn what is right and what is wrong in such an environment. When he cannot learn these, he cannot decide about the feelings in life. He cannot manage his emotions. Problematic personalities emerge that do not know where to stand. Later on, we raise children who cannot consciously use the phone, social media and internet.
Do a ‘tech detox’!
There are simple methods that can be applied to get rid of nomophobia. Learning about nomophobia is the first way to get rid of this phobia. By accepting this addiction, you take the first step. Afterwards, you should definitely seek help from a specialist doctor. 7
Also, these steps can make your job easier:
Leaving the phone at home and not using it for a while can be difficult in the first hours of the day. But if you realize that this is actually a comfort. An occasional ‘tech detox’ can be a good solution. So you can understand people’s feelings or notice how you feel. Observe how the sky turns. With these simple methods, you notice the color of a flower or grass. Technology doesn’t dominate you, you dominate it, and remove it from your life at least occasionally. Practice these methods without getting nomophobia.
You can set some rules for similar methods to protect your child from nomophobia.
- Stay away from your cell phone for a while,
- Instead of putting the phone on your bed before going to bed, put it further away from you,
- Slowly get rid of your obsession with checking your phone all the time by turning up the volume.
- If we can, you can stay away from the city, in places where there is no phone call, and invest in your soul and body.
Remember, while the phone may seem like a pastime and necessity, it means much more. If we do not act consciously and put a quota on phone usage, it is only a matter of time before we catch the diseases of modern times as a part of this mechanism.