Obstinacy is a behavior that can occur in anyone, regardless of age and gender. In the scientific world, those who work in the field of genetics defend the stubbornness gene, while those who work in the field of behavior argue that stubbornness is a learned behavior. Observed in children between the ages of 2-6, certain attitudes such as holding on, insisting, insisting on their wishes period of resistance is named. It is a period in which the child can act more independently from the parent, express his feelings with the acceleration of language development, and make connections between events. Realizing that he is an individual, the child also tries to gain personality and prove himself. The child, who realizes that his wishes are not fulfilled, exhibits angry, vicious and stubborn behaviors due to the feeling of frustration. These stubborn behaviors seen between the ages of 2-6 can also be called child adolescence. In this period, the child shows persistent attitudes, cannot act according to the rules, has crying spells to get what he wants, briefly to his parents. i have the war It is an opening period. These crying spells aren’t always about knowing what you want. Sometimes, even though he doesn’t know what he wants, he can be stubborn just for the sake of contradicting you. Unfortunately, many parents get into unnecessary conflicts with their children in response to this behavior of the child. The idiom of being a child with a child not only works to reinforce positive behaviors but also reinforces negative behaviors and wears out both sides. Research shows that when the parent adopts the same attitude, the child gets stressed and negatively affects his growth and development. Of course, it is not an easy process for parents, but it is very important to exhibit the right attitudes and attitudes for the healthy completion of the child’s identity development.
In the period of the child’s stubbornness, he can do everything he wants. ‘Yeah’ It’s not true to say. The important thing is not to miss the measure and be consistent when setting boundaries. In this process, avoiding definitive answers and giving the child the right to choose will ensure a middle ground for both parties. You can set the rules together and explain the reasons briefly and clearly to the child so that the child does not have an unlimited structure. Having an angry and impatient attitude during the crisis will affect the child worse. Approaching with a soft tone of voice makes it easier for you to communicate. Remember, the important thing is not to show who is strong and who is weak, but to learn that you cannot get everything you want instantly. In addition, if there are stubborn behaviors in the family or in their parents, it would be best for those who are role models to file themselves first. Stay healthy..