Someone is watching us

Someone Is Watching Us… Helicopter Parents…

Helicopter parents are the names given in everyday language to parents who show extreme interest and closeness to their children, and who are overly concerned with their experiences, problems and sometimes their educational status. They are parents who are constantly watching and hovering around their children like a helicopter, and they are very tiring for their children. The term helicopter family was first used in 1990 in the book Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Childeren Responsibility, published by two doctors named Foster W. Cline and Jim Pay. This phenomenon, which was also investigated in Scandinavia at the same time, ‘over-parenting’has been defined as.

It is seen that it has turned into a concept that is used quite widely today. These families spin around, buzzing over their children’s heads like a helicopter. The children are there whether they want it or not.

They try to protect their children from any danger that they foresee may happen to them. Is what they see as a danger related to their children or their own concerns? This is a reality that is always confused and goes unnoticed most of the time. I know children who aren’t allowed to walk until they’re 4 years old – without getting off the couch – because they assume the world is a very dangerous place. As these children grow up, they grow up feeling not protected and safe, but thrown into a dangerous world like their own parents.

They grow up around these children by giving different reactions to the propeller parents and their children of course, but the most basic of all, anger appears as an emotion. in adult life guiltThese children turn into individuals who are too many…

Children exhibit different attitudes, some of them grow up thinking that their wishes and feelings are not important to others. This can then lead to passive-aggressive behaviors, uncontrolled outbursts of anger or psychosomatic symptoms.

Others are afraid of being alone and try to reach a very high level of behavior and business skill to avoid criticism. Worse still, they think that they can reach this high level by working non-stop for a lifetime. Typically, these children grow into people with Type A personality traits who can’t afford to take vacations, are work-oriented, and are at high risk of heart attack.

These parents, who are overprotective and tolerant towards their children, do not realize that their children may have problems in taking responsibility, cooperation and setting goals in the future. Your child that you are a fan around perceptions of righteousness can also grow with They may believe that they are superior to other people and become overly reactive to the rules that govern normal social rules.

These children often grow up with the difficulty of expressing their rightness or claiming that they are completely right in everything, and naturally they suffer from this situation.

Is it possible for children whose lives are meticulously planned from the moment they are born, who are planned to go to school when they are 3 years old, which branch of art they will engage in at the age of 5, which sport they will do and who they will be friends with, learn to be independent and have self-confidence?

So, what can parents do for the development of the child’s problem-solving skills and gaining self-confidence? First of all, by giving up being a propeller and realizing that there is another individual who is not an extension of themselves, of course…

Starting from a younger age,

Let him see his own affairs, make mistakes at the beginning, then talk about his mistakes and think about what you could have done instead of doing it.

To get his opinion in solving the problems that may arise in the family in daily life.

Encourage him to develop social skills and express himself

Helping the characters in the movies they watch evaluate their emotions

To know that he is a child and that he can grow up feeling safe. to the bordersknow and show the need

The most important thing is to be supportive in making her own decisions…

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