Solitude in the Crowd

Sociability is the tendency to prefer being with others to being alone. Humans are a group of living creatures. The reason for doing this behavior is not because it is good, right or thoughtful, it does it by nature, but it is accepted that there are basic reasons such as instinct, innate determinants, learning, and fulfillment of needs.

In some cases, people may still feel distant, isolated and alone, like their family and coworkers, no matter how large a group they are around. This feeling of loneliness can lead to unhappiness after a while. Depending on the personality pattern, there are people who do not complain about this situation and love it, and it is expected to be unhappy with this situation.

The feeling of loneliness that is in question for us, of course, is the one that arises against the person’s wishes and causes discomfort to the person.

Let’s talk about what this feeling is; basically, it is being away from people with many cognitions such as not being able to enjoy while in a social environment, reluctance to communicate, thinking that they are not understood, and being unhappy with this isolated state.

As we mentioned at the beginning of the article, human beings cannot live without being social, and this is against their nature. When you think that you are not understood, perhaps the necessary thing may be due to not developing the right communication model or not establishing relationships that will truly satisfy your sense of intimacy, while past experiences or distressing life events can trigger this feeling.

With psychotherapy, it becomes possible for you to manage the events and situations that cause the feeling of loneliness and therefore unhappiness.

Delay

There are a number of tasks that come before us during the day, the work that needs to be done and our responsibilities. Sometimes completing what needs to be done becomes a huge burden and is constantly delayed.

Although procrastination may seem acceptable and harmless, when it starts to become a habit, it becomes challenging and inextricable for the person.

It is known that there is a general acceptance that the last main procrastination covers behavioral, cognitive and emotional dimensions. If we define the procrastination behavior, it can be expressed as leaving the work that needs to be done on time to the last moment. This behavior; It is a behavioral attitude or characteristic feature of making decisions, planning, delaying or not doing the work that needs to be done.

Procrastination behavior is actually a disorder also known as “Procrastination”; We can express it as constantly postponing the work to be done, avoiding completing it, not being able to reach the finishing stage or even not starting at all.

As a result of procrastination, homework that is not done on time, unfulfilled work is reflected as a failure in the person’s business or school life. It causes destructive emotional processes by bringing communication problems with not only work or school life, but also the social environment of the person over time.

So what are the reasons for procrastination, why are things constantly being disrupted?

*lack of motivation

*not liking the job

* being a perfectionist

*performance anxiety

*fear of failing

* the person has unusual expectations for himself

Such thoughts and processes reinforce procrastination behavior. In addition to these, being unplanned and being inadequate in time management cause the work that needs to be done to be postponed constantly.

In order to cope with this behavior, it is important to bring to light the real problem that caused the procrastination. This is possible in the therapeutic setting. Most of us have faced this problem from time to time in the course of our lives. The important thing is that if you realize that you can no longer manage and its negative effects are reflected on you, stay in the moment to stop your procrastination habit, focus on the present and start immediately what needs to be done.

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