One of the things I have been fascinated with for years, both in the psychology literature and in the clinical field, is how much the body serves our soul. The way our body feels, its records, its illness, its reactions, is a vast field. This area is so precious that it is the mirror and memory book of all our spiritual processes. Have you ever had pains that suddenly felt uneasy, your body got sick in a way you didn’t understand, it was said that it was psychologically based, or the cause could not be found? Have you ever experienced situations where your eyes filled with tears, your stomach was suddenly nauseous, your head was dizzy, your skin was shedding when you woke up in the morning, and styes appeared in your eyes? The moments when you ate five minutes ago and suddenly your eyes roll and you want to eat right away? What about allergies? Food, dust, etc. that appear suddenly, disappear after years or remain with you. such as allergies? Burning in your urinary tract, persistent headache, restlessness in your legs? The state of being shocked by everything you touch, the moments when you say how electric you are?
And so much bodily discomfort that I can’t finish counting here. None of this is random. Listen to your body. What do you have in your body records? Who knows what our body was exposed to from the moment you were conceived and until we reached this age? What did he record?
If we put a microphone in the hands of all these symptoms we are experiencing, what would they tell us? What would your persistent back pain tell you? Your stomach that constantly wants to eat? Who knows what your headaches would say? Have we ever heard the sounds of our body? Have we ever stopped whining about our symptoms, for which we go doctor to doctor and complain about our partner and friend without getting tired, and we wonder what this enormous body is telling me? I do not think so..
Let’s listen to the voices of why our bodies get sick or why we have eating attacks.
From the moment we are conceived, we hear, we live and we have been alive for a very long time. We have witnessed many issues, experienced many emotions. Sometimes we lived these feelings to our bones, sometimes we swept them under the carpet as if they didn’t exist. Every emotion that we did not experience or make sense of accumulated in different parts of the body, and since we did not hear it, our body became the voice of these emotions.
“Anger, anxiety, fear, sadness, etc”, which we define as negative emotions, are the emotions we want to suppress and ignore. Culturally, we wish this to be the case. The most common complaint I hear while working in a pediatric clinic is “children crying”. Parents are extremely uncomfortable when their children cry. They try every possible way to quell their children’s tears. When we adults see someone crying, we immediately hand them a napkin to wipe their tears, and make statements such as “OK, don’t cry, it’s over, there’s nothing to cry about”. This sounds very innocent to us. Unfortunately, the background is not like that. We cannot tolerate even a few drops of tears, anything negative should never happen. We learned this, we practice it. These feelings, which we cannot discharge, make our body sick.
“I CRY FROM MY NERVE”. I guess there is no one who hasn’t used this sentence all his life. Why do we cry when we are angry? This situation is contrary to our biology. Anger; It is a “protective” emotion that surrounds us when we feel threatened, either mentally or physically. Spiritually, anything can threaten a person; a look, a discourse, or any event. In these situations, our anger comes into play to protect us from the threat. When we get angry, we get upright, our body temperature changes, our voice becomes high-pitched, and we are in a state of total alertness. It seems strange that tears accompanying an emotion that makes us so upright and alert to attack. We don’t know how to distinguish our emotions, how not to feel them, how to express them and how to let them out that we don’t know if we are really angry or sad in the case of “I cried when I got angry”. For this reason, two opposite emotions come together in the same bodily situation, and a strange picture emerges. If we are aware of our emotions and allow ourselves to experience them, another reaction occurs in our body when we are angry, and a completely different reaction situation occurs when we are sad.
In case of any situation, “don’t be a problem, close the topic, let’s not talk about it, etc.” Reactions like these are very familiar to us. Not talking about pain, not talking about anger, how introverted we are. We’ve all heard the saying “you can’t talk behind the dead”. It is a great social shame to express our feelings after someone has died. We must always remember well those who left us. Is this realistic? Is it possible? Let’s all admit it never is. One of the situations that complicates even the loss process the most is that the “anger, anger, resentment” against the deceased does not come out. We suppress these feelings because we do not talk behind the dead. We cannot express our feelings towards the deceased, it is forbidden. But if our feelings are not dead, they are still with us, where do I send them by repressing? To my body..
Every emotion we suppress makes our body sick, make us gain weight, give us a headache, make our legs restless, cause allergies. Because such foods not only cheer up our stomach, but also temporarily increase our tolerance to our negative emotions through the hormones they secrete in our brain. We sacrifice our whole life by making our body sick in order not to experience and suppress some emotions.