In order to understand our sexual processes, we must first know that women and men experience these processes differently.
Male Sexuality : The man begins to be sexually aroused. Men’s hardening penises are an indication that this process has begun. Enthusiasm and excitement increase in a short time. Pleasure juice begins to emerge from the tip of the penis. The purpose of this liquid is to lubricate the surface to allow the semen to travel farther. The male penis has become ready for sexual intercourse since it becomes hard. With this feature, we can compare the male sexual processes to a light bulb. It is ready to use from the time we press the button. This period can be quite enjoyable, although not as much as ejaculation for the man.
This readiness period continues from the onset of sexual arousal to the ejaculation process. The ejaculation period is the peak of sexual pleasure for men. During this period, arousal peaks and after ejaculation, arousal returns to its baseline. For men after the ejaculation phase dissolution phase starts. In this phase, the male individual makes himself closed to sexual stimuli. Excitement and enthusiasm about sexuality disappear at this stage. It takes its place in a state of peace and relaxation. During the thaw period, the man cannot provide sexual arousal and hardness even if he wants to. The length of the dissolution phase varies according to age and situation. For an 18-year-old, this process can take up to 1 minute, while for a 50-year-old, it can take weeks.
Female Sexuality: Women start arousal much more slowly. With this feature, we can compare women’s processes to a heater. It takes time for it to warm up and then to cool down after it’s warmed up. The arousal period begins with touching and erotic thoughts. Arousal is more difficult to notice than men. With the state of arousal, the female body gradually begins to prepare itself for sexual intercourse. The breasts become hard and the vagina begins to secrete fluid. The purpose of this liquid is to prevent the female muscles from being damaged during intercourse and to facilitate intercourse by making the vagina slippery. If the woman is not sexually ready, bleeding may occur. Women who have had sexual intercourse for the first time may think that these bleedings are caused by the rupture of the hymen. However, rupture of the hymen does not cause bleeding. The majority of bleeding is caused by sexual intercourse before the female body is ready.
After the female body is ready, there is no obstacle to sexual intercourse. The mating phase of women is a more cyclical process than men. In this process, it can be discharged many times. After ejaculation, sexual pleasure and arousal do not decrease to zero as in men. Pleasure and arousal continue to fluctuate. There is a gradual decrease as in the example of the heater. Since there is no fluid output during the ejaculation process in women, male individuals may not have an idea about when women ejaculate.
When we understand the difference between male and female sexual processes, drawing a path according to our partner’s wishes and needs helps us to create a beautiful path for the pleasure of sexuality.