The words separation and anxiety are more common for early childhood/infancy.
Although it is used, it is a condition that can be seen in children and sometimes even in adolescents. children
as they become aware and begin to understand the world around them; especially from their parents
or parent figures such as grandmother/grandmother, grandfather and elder sister and brother, caregiver
they begin to show resistance to leaving, to make an effort not to leave. from his parents
a child leaving and going to a day care center or being cared for by a caregiver
The child started to cry when his parents leave him, although his mother and father begin to cry.
Although it is a difficult thing for the father to experience, it is also a part of the child’s development.
Parents are not prepared for these separation anxiety reactions, crying and shouting.
The other side of it is that they see these reactions from their children, whom they call “he has grown up now”. school age children,
Even puberty children, and even adolescents, may experience separation anxiety and this
The anxiety experienced can result in the development of Separation Anxiety Disorder. according to DSM
4-5% of children; 1-2% of adolescents have separation anxiety disorder.
Although a few drops of tears are very common among children in the initial stages and
Although it is not a reaction to worry about; Symptoms of Separation Anxiety Disorder
It is necessary to address this situation of a child who shows I don’t want to go to school,
inability to sleep or sleep problems, such as extreme stress each time separation is experienced
The continuity of the symptoms affects the child’s life more negatively day by day.
Separation Anxiety Passed From Parent to Child
Many parents feel uncomfortable when their child is sad or crying all the time.
But there are some who are more willing than others to be physically separated from their children.
They worry more about their reactions and feelings. For such parents, do a job outside.
take their children to a caregiver or to a nanny when they go to work, or go to work.
to grandparents; leaving it to daycare, daycare, or kindergarten
it is destructive. For parents who are so intolerant of being separated from their children,
that they themselves had difficulty separating from their parents as a child, or that
Having developmental traumas in the subject is often an accurate guess. If a mother or
If the father’s level of separation anxiety is very high, he usually
He transfers his worries in his early childhood to his child and interacts with him.
is living again.
In this respect, a child between the ages of 3-6; separation anxiety basically in two different ways
experiences, one of which remains as his own experience, and the second is that of the mother and/or father.
as it accompanies him with his own separation anxiety. A child goes to a caregiver for the first time
When he leaves, when he starts kindergarten or daycare, he does something developmentally essential for himself.
experiences, so the child will learn to cope with it somehow. General
as the first time a child is physically separated from their parents; may be worried about
may cry, shout, or become angry; reactions early childhood
It is shaped according to the developmental characteristics of the period, but it is already one of these reactions.
It is considered as an issue that should be emphasized; if the child is not worried,
does not cry, shout or get angry. Later, when the child is released, he usually
calms down as he can discern that he is safe, or his relationship with his teacher or caregiver
The interaction diverts his attention and his anxiety disappears. Immediately after
cognitively, as the child can manage this situation and his parents will return for him.
begins to experience and explore details; as this becomes more fearful, and separation
Anxiety fades over time. Experiencing this is already essential for every child. However,
The child and his/her mother and/or father also have separation anxiety and what will happen to the child.
the situation becomes more complex and challenging for the child;
the child feels safe or that his or her parents will return to pick him up.
it’s hard to believe. Simply put, the more separation anxiety the parents experience, the more
The more difficult it will be to learn to deal with this separation anxiety and resolve it.
Symptoms of Separation Anxiety Disorder in Children
Separation anxiety is caused primarily by the child’s attachment figures and caregivers.
or from their parents; and the extreme fear and anxiety he experiences when he is away from his home.
These anxieties and fears can give symptoms to the developmental period of the child in different ways.
– If he/she experiences discomfort, boredom and stress when he/she is separated from his/her parents or home,
– Permanent separation from their parents or to them due to reasons such as illness, accident or death
expressing concerns about harm
– Home from home due to separation anxiety, including school, kindergarten or daycare
If he doesn’t want to go out or walk away,
– Is extremely afraid of being alone
– Refuses to sleep separately from mother or father,
– If they have separation dreams and nightmares,
– Headache, stomachache, nausea or vomiting when separated from parents
shows symptoms that do not have a physical source, such as
He may have separation anxiety disorder.
Treatment of Separation Anxiety Disorder
There are many approaches used for Separation Anxiety Disorder, but the main thing is
The sooner a treatment process is started after the symptoms are noticed, the more likely the child will be out of the process.
the faster you will get results. widely used for the treatment of Separation Anxiety Disorder.
Let’s briefly talk about the two methods used:
Family Counseling / Family Therapy
Parents and even other family members are likely to be involved in the therapy process.
will reinforce the results. A family who received counseling on this issue; interact with their children
learns to develop new ways of constructing and new attitudes, and at the same time
to experience the source personally and to participate actively in the process,
It will make the process easier for others as well.
Young children make connections between their thoughts, feelings and actions.
they may be forced. For children in this category developmentally, play therapy
a language that facilitates them to learn to express and control, to shape.
How to Support a Child with Separation Anxiety?
Parental support is key in helping a child learn to manage and cope with anxiety.
plays a role.
– Ensuring that the child goes to school early; which is the greeting of his friends, the teacher’s
pretending to be a helper or playing a game in the schoolyard before the lesson starts, or
can be presented to the child in the form of encouraging him to exercise
– Informing your child that you think about him/her during the day and that you miss him/her as well.
– To ensure that the child does not have many planned activities, this includes artistic courses or sports
including courses, study activities. Instead, the child’s playtime and free time
to always be
– Inform the child in advance of changes in the daily routine of the child or yourself
and giving her time to prepare herself emotionally for these changes