Starting the psychological support process can be scary for most people.
Even if you are aware of the need to see a psychologist, it can be difficult to dare.
Because it really isn’t easy to tell a stranger about situations that you’re having trouble with and things that you might not even admit to yourself.
Or you start this process with a dare, you tell, but then you see that you don’t feel any better. However, you decided to go to a psychologist because you wanted to feel better now. But it doesn’t seem to work.
Underlying all of this may lie: For better or for worse, we all have a “comfort zone” that is familiar to us and therefore safe. There is comfort in knowing what the next situation will be – even if it is negative.
Meeting with a psychologist, starting the psychological support process, knowing and understanding yourself are the opposite of these. It is a process where you question what you know and talk about the problem… All of these can make you unhappy, uncomfortable, and may cause you to worry about old problems that you buried deep and ignored.
But it should be noted that this emotional state alone may not reflect the truth. The fact that you are bored, overwhelmed or upset while doing something does not mean that the thing is 100% harmful to you.
For example, a student may become very overwhelmed while studying for a test and may want to watch a TV show or chat instead. The thing that leads him to success is being able to study despite being overwhelmed. Or you may be stressed presenting an important presentation for a job. But this may not mean that the presentation is too bad for you since it stresses you out, on the contrary, when you can manage this emotion effectively, it can be good progress for you at the end of the day. Or you naturally feel sad when you end a relationship that is no longer good for you, but just because you’re upset isn’t a factor that proves that relationship should continue.
Of course, what I mean here is not ignoring your emotion… If we compare it to a two-pronged perspective, “seeing only your emotion” can be just as dysfunctional as the other extreme. Actually, I mean finding balance here.
The psychological support process is very similar to these examples. The emotions that arise during this time are also materials to be studied, rather than being definitive proofs that you should give up.
Then, as an expert, I can say that; If you think that you have some difficulties in your life, that you cannot cope with some things, that you experience compelling emotions even if you cannot put your finger on the reasons, and that you cannot manage them, you can start the psychological support process and embark on a journey of self-discovery. This just shows that you are a person who is improving and struggling along the way, just like everyone else; You are not alone and helpless.