School Phobia

While starting the 2017-2018 education process, one of the most basic problems encountered in children is school.
is a phobia. School phobia, also called school phobia, is the child’s refusal to go to school.

School phobia, which can be seen not only when the child starts school, but also after, is only caused by the mother.
or the fear of leaving home, but the physical conditions of the school, the authoritarian role of the teacher, peer pressure or ”
It can also be caused by many reasons such as the anxiety of “I will fail”.

Although children with school phobia seem to have problems on their own, the source of the problem is the mother or the child.
It may be due to the father or even the relationship between the two.

When the research findings on the mothers of children with school phobia are examined, it is seen that the mothers
about one-third of them are obsessed. showed psychological symptoms in the areas of interpersonal sensitivity and psychoticism.
determined. In the study, when the common characteristics of students with school phobia were examined,
At the socioeconomic level, the nuclear family is usually the first child and the children with school phobia
It is noteworthy that their mothers are housewives who are primary school graduates. violence between parents
Incompatibility also plays a significant role that binds the child to the mother.

School phobia is not just rejection of school, the underlying need can send an emotional message.

The first bonding between mother and child begins in the womb and all communication is established through this bond.
The child will start school at the most important stage of his personality development and the bond he has established with his peers and his mother.
will establish a communication. If the child is the first child in the family, then the parents are a little more concerned.
can play a shy role. The type of insecure attachment that the child establishes with his mother in the first days of school is as follows:
may occur;
+ Look girl, I’m going, don’t cry when I’m gone, don’t upset your teacher, tell me if you need a toilet
Be careful, don’t eat anything anyone gave you.
– All right, mommy.
+ Look, my daughter, I’m going, okay, no crying.
-I said okay, mom.
+ Oh okay, then I’m going, look, I’m going this time for sure.
A dialogue in the form is one of the situations that teachers are most used to. Here the mother is separated from the child
He is not ready and is constantly worrying that something will happen to him while he is away, and he finds himself in an unimaginable state.
It can make you obsessed. Obsessions in mothers of children who already have school phobia
indications are evident.

What should I do?

First of all, you should establish a communication that reflects your child’s feelings and thoughts.
“Sweetie, I can feel what you’re going through right now, you’re anxious and fussy. You know, I’m the first to go to school
I felt exactly like you the day I started, I even cried. But over time I’ve had such good friends
we both had fun and learned new things with them. Today we still meet and talk about those days.
It’s a great place to make new friends and learn new things.”

If the child cries a lot and refuses to speak, please try to stay calm and suggest

give.

“My dear, please calm down, I won’t force you to do anything you don’t want. when you stop crying
I will be waiting in the hall to talk to you.” Ending the state of crying with an expression
emotions should be resolved.
Can you tell me what is the feeling that makes you nervous about school now? What would you do if you were at school right now?
Would you be? What would your friends say to you? Would your teacher like you? With questions such as the child’s school,
His attitude and perception towards friends and teachers should be analyzed.
Finally, with suggestion and persuasion, we go with the child, even to the school garden, and the school is accompanied by the understanding of the teacher.
the situation is supported there by re-adaptive elements.
The most appropriate solution is to act decisively, to show patience, and to show calmness with a measured internal discipline.

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