School adjustment problems

Here comes the inevitable moment. Your child is starting school. Shopping, running, trying to choose the best teacher, searching for the best school are not important for you devoted parents. You dared to struggle with all this.
And here the first bell rang and it’s the first day of school. You are excited, your child is anxious. You left the classroom, met the teacher, and the teacher asked you to leave. But your child doesn’t want to stay. No matter what you say, he doesn’t understand. she’s crying. The teacher says something, but it does not happen.

No panic. There are differences in the natural human attitude that we call “attachment” in your children, that’s all. You can solve this problem with the help of an expert.

The first thing you need to know is what not to do.
Do not leave the school by saying, “I am your bone, the meat is your bone”. In general, classroom teachers and administrators say, “just let it get used to it, it will get used to it”. However, that is not so much. This period may cause serious traumatic effects on your child and may irreparably damage their attitudes towards school. Often these effects may go unnoticed in the short term. But that doesn’t mean it’s unaffected.

So how to do?

Let’s talk a little bit about this connection issue.
Attachment is an attitude that responds to a natural human need. In short, we say attachment to the bond that an individual establishes with another person or object that he or she feels safe and comfortable with. Of course, it should be added that together with this definition, the concept of “healthy attachment” also needs to be explained. Healthy attachment is secure attachment. Gaining a secure attachment habit is an important process from the first days of life. The first contact with the mother, feeding by the parents, feeling safe and satisfying the feelings of love, etc. These are the factors that determine secure attachment and are very important.
This bond supports the baby’s future social, emotional and mental development and affects the relationships he will establish as an adult, his view of the world as a safe or unsafe place, his self-perception and personality.

At school age, these healthy attachment habits are put to the most important and most difficult test. For the first time, the child is left without parents in a community of strangers and an environment where he is unfamiliar. This situation may cause problems in children who have not fully developed healthy attachment attitudes (although attachment attitudes are not the only cause of the problems).

In this case, if the problem is related to attachment attitudes, the following should be done;
First of all, the child should be told what the school is like, why he or she goes to school, it is necessary to explain that the school will only be visited at a certain interval of the day and then come back home, and that the parents will be ready to pick him up.
The secondary thing to do is to gradually drop him off into the classroom. You should not act hastily. Let’s explain what is meant by gradual with an example application. Let’s say the child wants you to stay after you take her to the classroom and sit her on her desk. Inform the child that you will then be sitting in a chair at one end of the classroom. This will give your child time to bond with the teacher and other children. After doing this a couple of times, leave the class stating that he can find you at a fixed place in the school garden. And again gradually move on to the next step and indicate that you will come to pick it up after school.
Despite all this, if your child does not develop harmony and you cannot make progress, then remember that there may be a problem other than attachment attitudes and seek help from a specialist.

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