Raising Responsible Children

One of the most difficult issues for parents today is raising responsible children. The rush of adults in daily life, the need to complete current tasks quickly can cause them to be more impatient with their children, and to do the activities that children need to learn by experience for the child. As a result of such parents’ approach, the child’s ability to start and maintain a job is negatively affected. The child has difficulty in taking responsibility, developing self-confidence and sense of autonomy. For this reason, the sense of responsibility that begins to be gained at an early age is very important for the development of the individual.

Attitudes and behaviors of each family about giving responsibility to the child may differ. So, what kind of path should parents follow while instilling a sense of responsibility in their children?

Although parents have complaints about their children not taking responsibility, in our education system focused on academic success, the only responsibility of school-age children is not to study and do homework. Apart from the academic skills of the child, responsibility should be given according to his age and developmental period, and it should be checked whether the responsibility is fulfilled.

In cases where he does not fulfill his responsibilities, the child should know that he is responsible. After unfulfilled responsibility, the child should be talked to in a constructive manner, without condemnation or embarrassment.

Taking responsibility for the child’s behavior and doing it for him will prevent the child from gaining a sense of responsibility.

In cases where the child needs to take responsibility, contact should be made without using the imperative. ‘Can you help me?’ ‘I need your support/help on this matter.’ Such sentences will be effective both in establishing healthy communication within the family and in fulfilling the child’s responsibilities.

It will be beneficial for the child to participate in activities suitable for his age and interest, and to prepare the necessary materials for the activity by the child, in the development of a sense of responsibility.

The child must be made aware of keeping their own areas clean and fulfilling their self-care skills, and parents must be good role-models in this process.

It is seen that children who have not gained a sense of responsibility have more difficulties in their home and school life, and it is known that this situation causes conflicts within the family. It should not be forgotten that the way for a child to be a responsible individual is to grow up with responsible parents.

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