Adolescence is one of the most complex processes in human life. We’ve all been through this period. We lived through it, we forgot what we went through at that time when we stepped into adulthood. Changes in our body and soul, emotional ups and downs, our need for independence and many more.
Adolescence is a process in which both the body and the spirit undergo changes. The body changes very quickly, it may even be almost the same as an adult, or even more developed. But is it the soul? The soul still remains a little in childhood. The emotional maturity process does not develop as fast as the body.
In adolescence, the search for independence is generally dominant. Our adolescent children want to make their choices freely, organize their lives and do it on their own. This is a mixed time for families. Families of adolescents; If they can see behavioral changes such as rebellious, rude, and selfish as normal and part of development, it will be easier for them to adapt. What we expect from families is that they tell their child that they trust their child, that their goal is to get through this period in a healthy way, and that the family can accept this as well. If families can stick to this agreement, this period will be less conflicted and happier.
The need for autonomy dominates during adolescence. Adolescents should be given the opportunity to do appropriate things that they can do on their own. Instead of criticizing the behavior of the adolescent, parents will support the positive sides, establish a relationship of trust, and reduce conflicts and problems. Families should not be constantly skeptical about the choice of friends of adolescents and in the style of “you will definitely not meet”. However, it is not right to be a news from his friends, it is important to know his friends. You can organize meetings at your home where you can have a good time with your friends. With your child’s change, there will be many things that you need to change as well. At this point, your communication style and attitudes with your child are important. Regardless of these periods, you should be a good listener and control your emotions. You should make your child realize that you are listening with your body language and reinforce the communication. Another important point is to understand and notice your child’s emotion, that is, to empathize well with him, and to show it to him, so that it will help your child to name his own feelings and will help him relax. If your child is listening to you at the end of the conversation, you can share your own feelings and thoughts. While expressing yourself, it would be right to convey how you feel about the behavior of the adolescent and to approach without an accusatory attitude. Adolescents should be given the opportunity to develop responsibility for their behavior.
Finally; Try to get to know your child well, if you are aware of his needs, it will be possible to reach a common agreement. Adolescents want to be cared for, to be taken seriously, to be successful, respected and of course appreciated like any human being. For this, it is necessary to evaluate the opportunities well. It is very important that you ensure that your child is always with you so that they can trust you.