Psychology of Having Special Children

There is no one who has not heard this sentence, “It doesn’t matter if it’s a girl or a boy, as long as it’s healthy.” It will not be missing from the mouth of all parents who want to have a child. While parents are waiting for their baby to be born, sometimes it is a girl, whether it is a girl or a boy, although conversations are often made, the end of the sentence always ends in the same way, “Healthy enough”. Because health takes precedence over the name given to the child and the gender.
The decision of parents to have a child is an important turning point and brings many changes and innovations. In addition to these innovations, parents play a very important role in helping children become individuals who think and make decisions, question, research, be self-confident and unable to adapt to society. Parents always expect the child to be born to show normal development and never even want to think that they may have special needs. Finally, the baby is born. It takes time for parents to accept the fact that they have a child with special needs, and to rearrange their lives with this reality, regardless of the child’s level and degree of disability. In this process, they encountered
Their reactions to difficult situations, on the other hand, may experience psychological problems as well as shock, disappointment, denial, and guilt. In addition, it begins to experience changes in parenting roles, personal and business lives.
It is obvious that parents with children with special needs have more psychological and emotional problems such as somatization, stress, anxiety and depression than parents with children with normal development.
The lack of time, money and energy to take care of the child is among the situations that wear out the parents.
It can also be said that parents with special children have difficulties in fulfilling their daily life requirements, and feelings such as guilt, anger, helplessness, failure, and shame are frequently experienced. At the same time, situations such as the number of children, insufficient social support, low income level, marital status and resilience levels in the family play an effective role in experiencing severe mental and emotional problems. In order to meet the requirements of having a child with special needs, parents primarily turn to the resources they have, namely the people in the immediate environment such as mother, father, spouse, friend, friend. When these resources cannot meet the needed needs, they are turned to other resources.
that is, they turn to professionals. The support that parents will receive from their immediate environment or institutions helps them to accept the situation of the child with special needs, adapt and cope with the problems. What do parents notice first in their child? Language abnormalities are the first thing they notice at the beginning of their child’s developmental problems. In addition, parents realize that there are situations such as the absence of different types of crying in their children, voice, movement, posture, gaze, inability to imitate, inability to understand instructions, and problems in hearing. Parents are faced with negative thoughts when they need psychological help in order to maintain their psychological resilience and meet the needs of their children in these difficult processes they face. This is negative
It can be said that parents who have low self-esteem, have low resilience, have negative self-esteem, and face problems such as helplessness. Therefore, the fact that parents have such feelings and thoughts may cause them to have a negative attitude towards psychological help despite the need for psychological help. For this reason, it is critical for the development of their children that parents with special children protect their mental health and accept this situation of their children in a short time. It is also very important that the social support provided to parents is high in order to cope with this difficult process and protect their mental health. It should not be forgotten that “the most beautiful of all mothers”
As much as their biggest fear is the death of their children, the biggest fear of mothers who have children with special needs is dying before their children.” Wishing you healthy days…

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