Preparation for the new baby; 2

PREPARING YOUR FAMILY AND HOME FOR THE COMING BABY

Choosing Baby Clothes

As the birth approaches, you will need to acquire basic children’s clothes, baby clothes and accessories that will be needed for your baby in the first weeks. We will have the following suggestions for you to start.
3 or 4 sets of pajamas (covering the feet)
6 – 8 T-shirts or bottoms
3 overalls
2 sweaters
1 sleeping bag
2 berets (hood)
4 pairs of socks or booties
4 – 6 blankets (a thin blanket made of cotton)
1 small towel and bathrobe set (preferably the bathrobe has a cap).
3 – 4 dozen ready-made diapers in newborn sizes.

If you have other children, most of these baby items will be on hand. If the baby will be your first child, you can get many of these from your friends or family. Below are some of our suggestions that will assist you in obtaining clothing and material requirements other than these.

Get large sizes. If your baby is not premature or very small, the days are numbered when he can use clothes in newborn sizes, even if they come full at first. Even clothes that are stated to be in the size of a 3-month-old baby may feel tight after the first month. After buying a few pieces of clothing that she can wear for the first few days, give the main density to the larger sizes of clothing. Don’t worry, your baby won’t mind if their clothes are slightly loose for a while!

Although there is not yet an established standard in the children’s clothing industry in Turkey; All children must wear fireproof clothing. Make sure this is written on the label. This type of clothing should be washed with detergent, not soap, because soap loses its fire resistance feature. Examine the label for the detergent you will use.

When changing the diaper, check if the legs of the garment open easily.
Avoid clothes that are too tight around the neck, arms and legs. These are inconvenient for health and uncomfortable for the baby.
Read the washing instructions. All children’s clothes should be washable and should not require ironing.
Do not dress the newborn in shoes. He won’t need shoes until he can walk. Shoes that are worn early can deform the baby’s feet. The same goes for pajamas and socks that come in too small.

Purchase of Furniture and Baby Equipment

When you go to baby stores, you will have a hard time choosing baby gear you can buy. Some of these are really necessary. However, many of the glamorous ones are not even useful beyond unnecessary. In order to assist you in this regard; Below you will find a list of items and basic necessities that you should have when your baby is born.

A cot with all safety precautions (See page 10). Children’s cots sold in the USA must have these features. However, in our country, it is the responsibility of the parents to check whether the children’s belongings comply with the safety standards. Don’t consider buying a baby basket unless you have the extra cash to spare, as it will start to look small for your baby in a few weeks.

The mattress of the bed should be firm and covered in a way that can be easily cleaned. You can use a mattress protector for this purpose. If the protective sheath you are using is made of plastic or non-absorbent fabric; When the baby sweats, vomits or drools, lay a thick fabric on the bed that will absorb the wetness so that he does not lie on the wet floor.

The side cushions or “bumpers” of the cot are to prevent your baby’s head from hitting the rails of the cot. Make sure all the strings of these pillows are attached to the railings. When your child starts to stand up, remove these bumpers or he may step on them and get out of the cot. Using a pillow in a newborn’s crib is unnecessary and can be dangerous.

It will be less sweaty and comfortable for your baby if the bed of the cot is covered with a cover made of soft, water-absorbent (flannel) and preferably waterproof (flanel) fabrics instead of a nylon or linoleum cover. Such covers are known in the market as “bed protector” or “Ballet”. It is recommended that you lay a double-layered sheet on the bed and have a cotton duvet or soft blanket suitable for the size of the bed. Never use baby pillows that are covered with soft fabric on the outside and filled loosely with sponges or similar materials. The use of such pillows is prohibited by the US Consumer Safety Commission for causing suffocation in 36 infants.

Diaper changing table with safety features. It should be placed on a carpet or non-slippery surface so that it does not slip. Window edges should be against the wall, not the window edge, as they pose a risk of falling for your baby. Diapers, safety pins, and other items needed when changing diapers should be placed out of the baby’s reach but within your reach. If you place the drawer shelves and coffee tables in accordance with these principles; You don’t have to leave your baby’s side even for a second while changing diapers.

A large plastic baby wash tub. If your baby is less than a month old, you can wash them in the kitchen sink, but the faucets must have a pivoting head and should be removed when bathing the baby. Babies older than a month can reach around and turn on the faucets, so it’s safer to bathe the baby in a separate tub after the first month. Make sure the place where you will bathe your baby is clean. It is preferable that the inside of the tub is not slippery.

Safety Warning: Baby Baskets and Cribs
Many parents prefer cradles and baby baskets because of their convenience when taking the baby to their own room, that is, because of their easy portability. When deciding on this, remember that babies grow rapidly. A bassinet or basket that is suitable for the first month may seem small when your baby is two months old. Before buying baby’s first mattress, you should read the following features; will help you choose a safe mattress that can be used for a long time.

1. The base of the crib or basket must be strong enough not to fall apart.
2. The base of the bassinet or baby basket should be wide enough not to tip over if someone bumps into it.

The legs of the baskets with foldable legs should be able to be locked flat during use. Once the baby is one month old or five pounds (whichever comes first), he should no longer be laid in the basket but be promoted to his own bed.

The baby’s room and everything in it should be clean and dust-free. All surfaces, including windows and flooring, must be washable. The same rule applies to toys standing in the room. While teddy bears and other stuffed animal toys, which are a popular gift, are cute near your baby and entertaining for the child, especially the furry ones, they attract a lot of dust and cause nasal congestion. You can keep them until then, as your baby will learn to play with them months later.

Safety Warnings:Cots
While your baby is in his cot, he will usually be out of sight and on his own. The cot must therefore be a completely safe environment. “Falls”, which is the most common bed accident accident, is also the accident that can be easily prevented. A mattress placed high in a cot, a cot with the rails lowered, are factors that increase the likelihood of children falling. When choosing a cot for your child, you should pay attention to the following:

■ The distance between the railings should not be more than 6 cm, that is, enough to pinch the child’s head.

■ There should be no openings at the bedside or at the foot that the head can get stuck in.

■ If the corners of the bed are protruding, remove or cut them off. Loose clothing can get caught in them, causing the child to suffocate.

Since many old bedsteads are painted with lead paint, as the rails wear, they can poison the child who tries to chew on the bedstead (this really does happen). As a precaution, scrape off old paint and paint with lead-free, quality, enamel paints. Let it dry in a well-ventilated room. Attach plastic strips to the top of the side rails (you can find them at children’s furniture stores).

To avoid other cot accidents, you should pay attention to the following:

1. When you buy a new mattress, remove and discard all plastic packaging material. These can cause the child to suffocate. If you are going to put a thick plastic cover or mattress protector on the mattress, make sure it is not loose. Prefer zippered cases.

2. As soon as your baby starts to sit up, lower the bed level to a position so deep that he cannot fall or climb when he leans against the edges. When he learns to stand up, lower it to the lowest level. Falls most often occur when the baby tries to climb. therefore, move him to another bed when he is 75 cm tall or when the railing level is less than 3/4 of his height.

3. When you lower it to the lowest level, the top of the bed rail should be at least 10 cm above the bed (even if the bed is at its highest level). Fences must not be unlocked by your child. The bars should always be raised when your child is in the cot.

4. In order to prevent your baby from slipping and getting stuck between the bed and the bed, it is important that the bed is fully seated and there are no gaps in between. If you can get three or more fingers from the sides of the bed, get a mattress that fits the headboard well.

5. Regularly check the metal railings for any sharp, burrs or sharp parts. Make sure that there are no cracks or splinters in wooden bedsteads. If you see dent marks on the rails of the bed, cover the rails all the way with plastic strips (you can find them at most children’s furniture stores).

6. Place bumper pads on the sides of the cot when your baby is small. Make sure these pillows surround the bed and are firmly attached to the sides in at least six places. Make sure that these ties are no more than 14 cm in order not to allow them to tumble around the baby’s neck.

7. When your child starts to stand up by holding on, remove the side pillows, toy animals, anything that he can jump out of by briefly stepping on them from the bed.

8. If there is a mobile type toy on the bed, make sure it is securely attached to the bed. This toy should be too high to reach and whichever comes first; It needs to be removed when it is 5 months old or when it can sit.

9. As soon as the child begins to lift his body with his hands and feet, remove all toys from the cot. Toys such as “cradle gymnastics” that are stretched over the cot to play and catch with their hands are resistant to your child’s pulling and catching, but they can become entangled if the child falls on them.

10. To avoid the most dangerous of falls, do not place a child’s cot near a window.

Safety standards for children’s goods have not yet been established in our country. For example, although all children’s cots made in the USA after 1985 comply with the general safety standards, it is your duty to check whether the goods you will buy for your baby are safe in our country; falls on the parents.

If the air in the baby’s room is too dry, your pediatrician may recommend that you use a humidifier that will deliver cool steam to the room. In addition, you can use a “cool steam room humidifier” when your baby’s nose is blocked due to cold and flu. If you are using an air humidifier, empty the water and clean it regularly when it is not working, following the instructions in the user manual. If you do not do this, bacteria and mold can grow in the water inside. Air humidifiers that produce hot steam are not recommended as they can cause scalding and burns.
One of the items that your baby will definitely enjoy are the mobiles to hang on the top. Choose one of different shapes and bright colors. Some also play beautiful melodies. When choosing the mobile, not from the sides or from the top; Look at it from the angle your baby will see, from below. Try not to buy the ones that look good from the side and from the top, they are designed for your taste, not the baby’s. When your baby starts to sit up, he may reach for these toys and make them self-destructive. Therefore, remove these toys when they are sitting up or before they are five months old.
Rocking chair, jukebox, cassette record or CD player; They are wise choices for the nursery. The swaying of your seat increases the soothing effect of your lap. Playing soft music for your baby will help him relax and sleep when you are not around.

You will want the lights in your baby’s room to be soft. When it’s dark, you can leave a night light. This lamp helps you control it more easily, and when the baby gets older, it makes him feel safe when he wakes up at night. Make sure all lamps and cords are out of baby’s reach.

Preparing Your Other Children for the Baby’s Arrival

If you have other children, you need to carefully plan when and how you will tell them the “new baby is coming” news. A child aged four and older needs to hear the news as soon as you tell it to relatives and family. At the same time, it is necessary to simply explain the birth of a baby and pregnancy and explain the bond between them and the baby. Stories about storks are cute, but they won’t help your little one understand and accept the situation. Simple, picture books on where babies come from can help you with this.
If your child was under four when you got pregnant, you can wait a while before telling. At this age, it can be difficult for him to understand an abstract concept such as an unborn baby because he is very self-involved. However, once you start buying items for the nursery, removing her old crib, buying and sewing baby clothes, you need to tell her what’s going on. When she asks questions about her mother’s growing belly, take this opportunity to try to explain (in a simple way) what happened. Picture books can also be helpful for younger children. Even if she doesn’t ask any questions, talk to your child about this in the last months of pregnancy. If there is a hospital that offers sibling preparation training, take your child there and show them where the baby will be born and where they can visit him. Show other newborns and their siblings and explain how soon he or she will become a big brother or sister.
Do not promise or suggest that everything will be as before after the baby is born. Because no matter how hard you try, many things will change. Let him know that you will continue to love him as much as before and help him understand the positive aspects of having a sibling.

The period when it is most difficult to explain the “baby is coming” news is in the 2-3 year old group. Children this age are very attached to you and may not yet understand the time they have to spend with you, the things they have, and why they have to share your love. He is very sensitive to changes in his environment and the idea of ​​a new family member may seem threatening to him. The best way to ease her jealousy and help her overcome this feeling is to get her to participate in the baby preparations. Go out with her on your shopping for clothes and nursery. Show her baby pictures of herself. If you’re going to use items that used to be hers for the baby, prepare them after letting them play with them for a while.

For your child; If you’re planning major changes, like toilet training, moving from cot to bed, changing the bedroom, or going to kindergarten, make them happen before the baby is born. If this is not possible, postpone these changes until after the baby is well settled in the home. Otherwise, the child may experience the stress of such changes in himself, added to the problems created by the new baby for him, and may fall into depression.

Use her mother’s questions about her growing “tummy” as an opportunity to explain what’s going on.

Picture books for very young children can be helpful.

Set aside a special time each day to be with your older child.

Don’t worry if you notice a regression in your child’s behavior when you receive the news that a baby is due or when the baby is born. He is like his little brother; Don’t worry if she doesn’t want to use her bottle again, have a diaper tied, or leave your side. She displays these behaviors to question your interest and love for her. Take such requests as an opportunity to show him your continued love and care. Instead of scolding and telling him to act his age, comply with his appropriate requests. A three-year-old child who tells him to go to the toilet may want to use a diaper again and continue this behavior for a few days, while a five-year-old child like this may want a baby blanket that he left a long time ago and think he forgot, and keep it for a week. However, after a while, he will return to his normal behavior when he realizes that he is just as important to the family as his new sibling.
The new baby will fill your thoughts and time. But no matter what, you need to set aside some special time each day for you and your older child. Read together, play games, listen to music or just talk. Show that you care about what they do, think and feel. The content of these conversations should not be limited to baby-related issues, but should extend to all aspects of your child’s life.
Preparing Yourself for the Birth of the Baby
You will experience different feelings in the last stages of pregnancy. For example, you will experience the dilemma that everything will happen as soon as possible and that there is not enough time. While you want the baby to be born as soon as possible, you will be worried about whether there is enough time for everything to be perfect and in order before he arrives. As the expected delivery approaches – and in some cases even delayed – you will have to pacify the excitement of others alongside your own troubles, and you will have to get countless calls from loved ones who are wondering about you, and you will have to pacify them. When such social pressures are added to the physical problems of pregnancy; The ninth month may seem like it will never end. Remember, the story has a nice ending. Therefore, enjoy your free time as much as possible.
By using your time wisely in the last stages of your pregnancy, you can take out a lot of work that you will have to do after delivery. For example:
qMake a list of people you need to report the birth to. Decide how you will notify, write addresses on the envelopes of those you decide to notify by letter or postcard.
qCook some food and put it in the freezer. You may not eat for a while after the baby is born.
q If you need help with childcare and housekeeping and can afford it, talk to the candidates (see Finding temporary staff for Child Care. P:152) Have a list of people you can reach out to whenever you need it, even if you think you won’t need help.
qMake your last-minute preparations for birth before the ninth month. The to-do list should include:
qThe hospital’s name, address, and telephone number.
qThe name, address and telephone number of the doctor or midwife nurse who will deliver your baby and the person who will take care of him if the doctor cannot be found at that time.
qThe fastest and easiest way to go to the hospital or birthing center.
qThe entrance to the hospital’s maternity ward.
qThe telephone number of the ambulance service to which you will contact in an emergency.
q If you do not live in the same house as the person who will take you to the hospital, his/her phone number.
qA bag with ready-made items and materials that will be needed for delivery and during your stay in the hospital. In this bag; cleaning materials, your clothes, cologne to disinfect the hands of visitors, the addresses and phone numbers of friends and relatives, a few magazines or books to read, a thin cotton blanket to carry the baby, and the clothes and clothes that you will put on the baby on the way home should be placed.
qInfant car seat to bring baby home safely. This seat must comply with safety standards. Place the baby facing the back of the car. The baby should be seated in a rear-facing position until they sit up unassisted or reach nine kilograms, and for at least the first 4-6 months. The seat can then be fastened in a forward-facing position.
qIf you have other children, arrange for people to take care of them while you are in the hospital.
When your baby is born, you will suddenly encounter this new person who seems very close to you but very mysterious for all these months, and you will forget about the pregnancy period that seems like it will never end and all the troubles you have gone through during this time. Lots of information about your child’s development, health, and the duties that await you as a parent; You will learn about prenatal education information, courses we will do on various subjects, similar documents we will give you when you come to our office, and mutual meetings with your doctor..

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