Do the following sentences sound familiar to you?
· I feel inadequate as a mother, I cannot take care of my baby.
· Everyone says something different about raising a baby, I’m confused, I resent everyone.
My baby was born and I should be happy but I feel helpless.
· I lost my self-confidence, I gained weight, I look bad.
The baby is not feeding enough.
No matter how much you want; no matter how much you love it, having a baby is new and can create stress and anxiety. It is normal for the mother to experience these situations as sleepless nights, a new order at home, not being able to spare time for yourself, and restriction of relations with the social environment occur.
What is postpartum depression?
A brief depressive mood is normal after the baby is born, but if the depressed mood still persists or worsens after a few weeks, you may be experiencing postpartum depression. People generally have difficulty in understanding postpartum depression, or some of the women who experience postpartum depression may be ashamed of this situation and try to hide it.
What are the symptoms of postpartum depression?
· Getting angry all the time
· feeling sad
Crying a lot or not crying at all
Constant change of mood
Absence of feelings for the baby
· Not wanting to feed the baby, feeling away from the baby
Anxious, anxious mood
Insomnia or excessive sleep
Feeling extremely tired
· Loss of sexual desire
Decreased or increased appetite
Decreased interest or pleasure in activities
If several of these conditions occur within a few weeks of giving birth, you may be experiencing postpartum depression. In postpartum depression, these symptoms are more severe and last longer.
Women at high risk of developing postpartum depression;
Anyone who has given birth can experience postpartum depression, but in some cases there is a greater risk of developing postpartum depression. These situations are;
Have a personal or family history of depressive disorder
· Discord with spouse
Having breast and breastfeeding problems
Difficulty giving birth or experiencing a traumatic situation
Lack of people who can help the mother
How is it treated?
postpartum depression; It is a disorder that can be treated with psychotherapy, medication, and strong social support. In more severe cases, inpatient treatment may be required if the mother has a reasoning disorder. It is extremely important to understand and evaluate the extent of family and social support during the psychotherapy process. Social support; It positively affects the adaptation process of the woman in the pregnancy and postpartum period to the role of motherhood. In addition, the client’s own perception of expectations and responsibilities regarding the role of motherhood in this process should be particularly addressed and emphasized.
Some practices that the mother can help herself with;
It is important to create a secure bond with your baby. Along with the benefits it provides to the baby, it helps to provide endorphins that make you feel happier as a mother.
· Do not try to be the perfect housewife. It is not important that food is cooked at home every day, that the house is clean and tidy. Minimize what you have to do.
· Do not keep your feelings to yourself. Talking about your feelings is important.
Take care to rest as much as you can, because fatigue triggers depression.
· Take care of your diet.
Try not to be alone all day.
· Ask for help and accept help. Convince yourself that there is nothing to be ashamed of when asking for help or to feel guilty about accepting it.
Exercises can be beneficial.
· Take a little time for yourself.
How can spouses help?
Rest is important for the mother. Help mom to take time for herself. Try to help at home. It is very important to take action without waiting for the mother to ask for help.
Prefer to listen to your partner instead of judging or suggesting solutions. Help her talk about her feelings.