Please get angry, but with control!

Anger is a type of emotional response that any healthy person can often resort to. Cry, laugh, get excited, rejoice, etc. Anger, which takes its place in emotions, is an important form of sense that needs to be controlled because of the easiest expression type and the most impressive effect after the feeling of love on the other side. Therefore, anger should neither be suppressed nor displayed lavishly. The important thing is to control the destructive nature of this natural reaction that can occur on both sides. Otherwise, the anger behavior of the individual may cause an increase in the more violent response in the counter-stimulus and reversibly cause unnecessary and increased tense new emotions. It means; While the dosed anger that we will show to different situations that disturb the person, is unacceptable and abnormal to our normal sensory system is healthy, exaggerated anger with destructive and provoking content can become chronic as it paves the way for mutual sensory conflict.

Exaggerated anger is the decelerated speed of the positive reaction that is intended to be negative or objectionable; contains triggering statements beyond comprehension. Exaggerated anger, which is intensely experienced by many individuals today, constitutes the most important emotional basis of learned aggressive behaviors. Uncontrolled anger, both in children and adults, increases the frequency of anger outbursts.

Anger, as a form of communication, is a way of expressing oneself. Whether it is a child or an adult, the individual either expresses a situation that he does not accept in this way or implicitly covers the message ‘I am here too’. Paying attention to the impact of external intolerances as well as internal conflicts; In this problematic process, it is necessary to understand the individual correctly and to shift the result to another positive behavior by creating awareness.

So, why uncontrolled anger or tantrums? The Frontal Lobe, one of the most developed and important parts of the brain in the learning and attention process, is of great importance in the feeling and transmission of emotions: happiness, pain, sadness, anger. In frontal lobe disorders, daily living behaviors turn into chaos and sensory control is impaired. This emotional inconsistency and exaggeration is inevitable in individuals with Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity problems. They cannot synthesize and control sensory inputs and always have trouble expressing the stimulus. For example; Since the attention center of the brain is not sufficiently stimulated by an outburst of anger, all sensory inputs in the anterior frontal region are transformed into outputs with imbalance beyond their real meaning.

It is related to poor attention-emotion awareness in this region. In fact, many individuals either apply or are exposed to uncontrolled anger in the process of daily life. In other words, uncontrolled anger behaviors that we unconsciously do may actually be a symptom of serious brain functional disorders.
He who cannot control his emotions cannot control the way he expresses it. Because,

Anger is not a problem solving tool,
Anger is not a way of revenge,
Anger is not a form of blaming others,
Anger is not a reason for violence or crime.
Anger is not a way of controlling others,
Anger is never the way to be right!

For this reason, it is necessary not to ignore the damage that uncontrolled anger will cause to the social element and individual relations, based on the structure of being a member of the society. This bipolar behavior will also hinder the individual’s self-knowledge and meaning, and thus cause many social and personal problems. Individuals who have problems with anger management often have difficulty in expressing their other emotions appropriately, and other chronic problems that threaten mental health such as tension and stress may accompany them. Anger, which cannot be expressed in appropriate ways, is unable to cope with an appropriate emotion transfer and forms a basis for either avoiding communication or displaying more aggressive behaviors due to its limited problem-solving skills. Especially children who are brought up with a role-model learning model are in the age range that exhibit tantrums best because their emotions are often blocked or ignored. Their anger is either exaggerated or their aggressive behavior is in the foreground. Therefore, children who cannot cope with the feeling of worthlessness try to express themselves with new tantrums. Recognizing the source of anger and caring for such children will be the quickest help.

In order for anger to be healthy and understandable, its existence must first be recognized and accepted. The internal or environmental factors that cause this should be determined well and awareness should be increased. In children and adults, this emotion is either denied or suppressed by indirect people. If anger is an understandable behavior, it is necessary to know the important problem sources that uncontrolled anger feeds and to get expert support. Exaggerated-indistinct sensory responses in the anterior frontal lobe, which are especially impaired by the distraction of attention with external stimuli and increase in sensory irritability (weakening in limbic system relations), render the concentration of responding to important emotions dysfunctional. “Why do some people feel calmer while others convey all their emotions through anger? “Of course, this can be a learned or involuntary disorder. So, uncontrolled anger can be controlled with controlled methods. By regulating the balance in the anterior frontal region and making the current potential more healthy and workable with LIFT, auditory perception training will also make the expression of mood more balanced and more controlled behaviors permanent. This professional help process, which is supported by cognitive activities (matching, hidden object, tactile and instruction tracking, etc.) will make a serious contribution to the healthy execution of the emotion control mechanism.

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