The most obvious features of perfectionism are maximizing the standard line, not allowing incompleteness and making mistakes, and being bombarded with criticism. Gordon H. Flett and Paul L. Hewitt (2002) have defined three types of perfectionism: While it can be applied both to oneself and to others, there is also a version we call social expectations. While he turns into someone who cannot admit his mistakes and imposes unattainable expectations when he turns to himself, when he turns to someone else, you come across someone who has difficulty in giving work to others because he generally does not like what he does, and constantly finds fault in those who are outside of him. His anxiety, combined with his belief that they would do just as well, did not believe in the impossibility of admitting even the slightest mistake. We can define social expectations as the belief that someone else has unachievable expectations from them.
Behaviors such as postponing the morning alarm, postponing the phone call, postponing the cake you will make with your child, and postponing the trip you have planned for the winter holiday will not put you in a lot of trouble. From time to time, some procrastination behaviors are necessary given the order of precedence. The downside mentioned here. For example, getting caught in the whirlwind of finding yourself doing something else and ending the day.
Perfectionism may seem strange to the bottom with procrastination behavior. Perfectionists want to do a flawless job that others can’t even beat. The calculations are mind-blowing and the performance they will show is legendary, but they do this job. While the task is a good fit for them, they can adapt to some extent, but what if they ask themselves the impossible? These people who refrain from doing a sallapati job do not mind leaving it unfinished because it should be magnificent when they are finished. So it is much more bearable for them to be incomplete.
They need constant correction, and excessive planning, organizing and sequencing are common behaviors. They want approval, Decision making is not easy, they have a lot of difficulty. They avoid and delay. They set such goals that they defeat themselves a lot. Failure is an unbearable nightmare for them. The way to avoid this nightmare is through procrastination. With the behavior of procrastination, they also drive away all this possible sense of failure.
Perfectionists think that this will meet their need to be accepted and loved. “If I am perfect, I will be loved.” As this expression becomes stronger inside, they begin to demand even more of themselves. It takes intense pressure. We define the times when they escape from the clamp as procrastination.
The priority for coping is to be realistic. The illusion of perfection cunningly obscures the truth. Because the need to be loved and valued becomes severe and distorted by the effects of past traumas, it may be undesirable to realize the truth. A therapeutic process is facilitated by acknowledging that when a perfect result is not achieved, it does not equate to a disaster. Being objective against the criticisms made against mistakes and considering that mistakes are in the nature of learning also have a share in overcoming them.