Our Love Is Over, Let’s Divorce!

Man: “I was very surprised to see how different my wife and I were. For example, I like to get up early, he likes to stay up late. I also don’t understand at all why his mood is constantly changing. And when I try to cook, my wife criticizes everything I do, especially when I wipe my hands with the cloth we used to dry the dishes.”

***

Woman: “You take pliers from my husband’s mouth. However, I grew up in a very different family. We love to talk, especially at the table. Also, when my husband cooks, he uses the same cloth to dry the dishes and wipe his hands. This is driving me crazy! Why is it so hard to understand men? I wonder how people manage to stay married.”

***

Signatures and words spoken in the presence of everyone who witnessed your love, which is hoped to last a lifetime… After the days when everything went well, what happens when couples cannot manage their crisis and come to the point of divorce? The person whose face you once couldn’t bear to look at turns into a person whose face you don’t even like to see.

***

During the dating period, the couples have not yet entered into the responsibilities. With their families or in their own homes, they lead an independent life within the limits of their own rules. However, with marriage, responsibilities and expectations will change with a new family institution. Because two different people who grew up in two different families have the same house at once.
It is not easy to share, create a common living space and meet at a common point.

***

People’s habits, lifestyles and perhaps cultures may be different from each other. People want to bring and apply their ideas, lifestyles and the life model they see in their own families to new living spaces. Thus, the person does not experience a feeling of emptiness within himself. Couples in a newly formed family both continue their habits
While trying to adapt to a new structure, they may falter. For this reason, the first years of marriage are called “critical years”. Couples should know that they may experience problems in their marriage as well as when they are very happy, romantic and peaceful. Because conflicts are experienced as much as happy moments in relationships.
likely.

***

In the later stages of the marriage process, couples face obstacles and problems. Couples who have access to expertise master the crisis management. Explosions with minor mistakes; resentments are resolved without going into silence. However, unhealthy family profiles that cannot manage crises cannot prevent their relationships from ending. Unhealthy
As the main reason for the end of marriage in family structures; As it has been determined by many researches, the decision to end the relationship is usually a decision made not based on the love and romance between the couple, but on the couple’s lack of problem solving, argumentation and conflict resolution skills. Developing problem-solving and communication skills of the couple in unhealthy families prevents unnecessary resentment between them. Thus, it helps to preserve the love and communication between them and to pass to a healthy family structure.

***

In fact, divorce is not due to the end of love; unhealthy family structure exists in the relationship. Maybe because couples cannot see that their family structure is unhealthy; they attribute the blame to the feelings lost when they get married and to the feeling of love that does not evolve. In a healthy family structure, the feeling of love leaves its place to feelings that have deeper meanings over time due to the care that couples show to each other and to the relationship. The transformation of love into a feeling with deeper meanings is the strengthening of the bond of love. Love is more precious than the feeling of love. It is in the hands of couples to glorify love in the marriage process where love turns into love.

***

With the sharing of roles and responsibilities in marriage, the adoption of the newly established family and not entering into a power struggle, and the couples showing the necessary care to each other, the negative uneasiness of the disappearance of the sense of love in their marriage over time will disappear.

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *