Today, the number of families with one child is increasing due to concerns about marrying at a late age, having children at a late age due to career, not having the financial power to take care of more than one child and not showing enough attention. However, due to cultural factors, family and environmental pressure, many parents think that growing up as an only child will cause problems and are hesitant to have a second child or not.
Parents worry about children growing up alone not learning to share, being selfish, not having friends to play with, and they see being an only child as a problem.
Difficulty in learning to share, not being able to find a friend to play with, being an dependent individual as a result of parents being overprotective, having difficulty in waiting and being patient due to the immediate satisfaction of their wishes and needs can be considered as the most common problems experienced by children growing up alone. However, it can be said that these problems can also be seen in families with many children, and this situation is caused by the attitudes of the parents rather than the number of children. At this point, parents should support each other in raising their children by displaying appropriate parental attitudes instead of seeing being an only child as a problem.
Skills such as sharing, understanding that others have wants and needs, obeying rules, waiting, and patience are skills that children can acquire from the age of three. With appropriate parental attitudes, only children can acquire these skills within the family environment. With appropriate attitude and education, the disadvantages of being an only child can be changed.
Advice for parents with one child:
* As long as parents are worried that their only child will be a problem, they unconsciously reflect these concerns on their children. Therefore, instead of seeing being an only child as a problem, it would be appropriate to ensure that the child enjoys the advantages of this.
* Parents should be in consensus on raising children, and appropriate parental attitudes and discipline methods should be applied. In this way, the child learns to wait and follow the rule. This makes him a happy and peaceful individual.
*Especially after the age of three, ensure that they are together with other children. Children learn to share, play games, and solve problems by being together with other children.
* Give him the opportunity to do his own work in accordance with his age.
* Do not expect him to have maturity over his age.
* Ensure that the child has a say, too. However, while doing this, do not let the child make all the decisions and manage you.
The fact that parents do not see being an only child as a problem can be possible by turning the disadvantages of being an only child into an advantage. The biggest advantage of having only one child is that all financial means are used for only one child. In terms of nutrition, care and education opportunities, it is undoubted that the financial opportunities for one child will be more than the opportunities for more than one child.