“Bad events, annoying experiences were always repeated. Beauties appear and disappear once. Waiting for Fear, Oğuz Atay
The ultimate goal of life is death, and the effort of all beings is to return to the inanimate state. Based on this thought death drive The concept was introduced by Freud in 1920. After 1920, Freud focused on the death and life instincts and mentioned that these two impulses have been in opposition to each other since the beginning of human life. From the beginning, life and death are intertwined, and the drives are situated between life and death. While the life instinct constantly demands to reach excitement, pleasure and pleasure, the death instinct aims to reach calmness and inactivity and thus to eliminate tensions. The goal of the death drive is not to reach death, but to seek calmness and silence; In describing the Death Drive (Thanatos), Freud “works quietly in the noise of Eros.” He has built his sentence. At the same time, Freud states that he wants to be inevitably repeated in the psychic life related to the death instinct, and that he wants the person not to be in any distress in order to ensure calmness. From this point of view, we can consider the death drive and the basic principle of the psychoanalytic school together.– In adulthood, the person tries to resolve unresolved conflicts in childhood by re-experiencing similar events in childhood with similar objects. In other words, the conflict is the same, but the object has changed, and the person will try to resolve these conflicts with different objects in adult life relationships by bringing up the unresolved conflicts of childhood. This brought to mind the search for calmness of the death instinct. The person will make himself/herself restless and conflicted again, and when the traumatic childhood experiences are resolved in the current new relationship, the ultimate goal will be calm and peace. The past is re-enacted in the present and often always ends with the same disappointing ending. So when does that unhappy ending not happen? It is possible to see this in the concept we call Transference in Psychodynamic Therapies. Transference refers to all of the emotions that a person directs to their therapist and that originate from early object relations. Childish desires with important childhood people are transferred to the therapist during the therapy process and are thus re-experienced in the therapist-patient relationship. The therapist’s recognition and interpretation of the transference will be the first key to resolving the conflict.