All the predictions we could make based on the title of the movie, I think, would have been too optimistic for this script. Hayat, a 13-14 year old girl, lives with her bedridden grandfather and father. If you mean living in the same house, yes, the three of them seem to get along. But behind the scenes, especially for Hayat, there is a life full of difficulties. Life is the fruit of a family whose parents are divorced, in other words, torn apart. While he spends almost every day of the week in the house where he lives with his father and grandfather, he stays with his mother and new wife for a day or maybe a few hours. A newborn son… It is probable that if they lived in the same house, his mother would have used Hayat like a maid to take care of her son. Even in the short time they met, he reminded me that he was an employee responsible for caring for the baby, with the warning “Girl, give me his food!” As far as I can see, his hard outputs were not limited to this. The first step to puberty, the day she started menstruating, her mother’s slap saying “You have become a woman!” shocked me during the cruise. In order for this process to be more meaningful and fearless and carefree for the young person, parents need to be very careful, cautious and understanding. Witnessing a young girl’s growth should be perceived as very meaningful and special to parents. In this process, the anxiety of the youth should be reduced with appropriate information transfer and social support; The naturalness of the changes experienced and the information that they are experienced by everyone should also be presented as an extra.
Although I think that Hayat has a hang-up in her psychosexual developmental stages, I support this idea with a few shots that are often reflected on the camera: We see her putting her hand to her mouth and sucking her finger, and once wearing a baby pacifier. This disruption in the developmental stages is not limited to this, I think. I observed that this young girl was in a backward state and movements compared to her age in verbal and nonverbal communication. It was not difficult to understand that the parents themselves had a share in this backwardness. In particular, we saw that the father and daughter could not establish a strong communication even though they were on a short trip together every day. The lack of communication or lack of communication affected Hayat’s choice of words and sentences suitable for her age and the reflection in her attitude and behavior. She has a poor language that lacks the expressions a 13-14 year old girl can produce. In the film, the young girl was not talked much, perhaps because it contained the messages that the director wanted to give, and she did not speak more than three or five words while she was speaking.
Life leads an unfilled life in front of the television, deprived of parental control. Apparently, he enjoys humming the songs he learned from television and composing melodies in his own way. She also sings in the school choir. In the midst of all this chaos of life, he stood up with the power he got from music throughout the movie, as if he were looking for a way out. Another thing that surprised me while watching was that the songs that Hayat enjoyed listening to weren’t worthy of her age. This time, we see that he prefers more mature songs that do not appeal to his age.
Even if it is short, I would like to dedicate a few words to the bedridden grandfather. Another huge burden thrown on Hayate… It shouldn’t sound absurd to call it a “burden” when it’s more than just being a grandchild, kissing hands and bringing water. Hayat meets all the needs of his grandfather, including eating, drinking and bathing. Perhaps there are minor resemblances arising from this closeness to the grandchild. Aggressive, grumpy, bad-mouthed grandfather; it creates other grooves just like the destruction left by the parents on the young girl.
An issue that should not be overlooked: sexual harassment. The unfortunate event he experienced in the neighborhood grocery store apparently could not sit on a meaning stool for Hayat. Afterwards, I think he was exposed a second time, the repeated painful incident begins to become more understandable to Life. This experience is likely to settle down as a terrible memory. I understand that the desire to save himself in this way lies behind the naive understanding of saying, “Brother, will you marry me?” to a gentleman who was traveling by boat.
In summary, there were a lot of messages to be taken out of the movie. By shedding light on the lives we have difficulty seeing, he made us a partner in the lives of people from within those lives. The difficulties experienced by a young girl, the influence of the parents in the multi-faceted development of the person, and how they shaped who the person is were clearly seen. Hayat, who got rid of all these events and drew a new scenario for herself, seems to be trying to find her true identity in the last scene!