My dear readers,
Today, ideas about divorce are often polarized, not only within families but also within society, in discussions about the causes, effects, and consequences of divorce, and appropriate societal responses.
Some in the society complain that the traditional family structure is disappearing; some embrace the diversity in the character and roles of the family.
The offspring of divorced parents are portrayed as either fragile or invulnerable. From the noise generated by the polyphony of such extremist views, we overlook the invaluable research that has been done for children and families, and for them individually.
For this reason, as a Family Counselor, Marriage Counselor, in order to understand the family psychology of divorce, we have to grasp its economic, demographic, cultural, legal and historical connections.
However, as a Family Counselor and Marriage Counselor, if we say if there is an explanatory feature for all divorces, it is change. Because some changes may have started long before the physical separation; some may continue for a long time after the legal divorce. I can say that these changes can make the family environment positive or negative, but the psychological impact on children must be evaluated. Especially the process of adapting to change and the long-term psychological adjustment of children should be paid attention. Besides certain patterns of family interaction, various characteristics of the child also affect the long-term We can say that it is associated with more positive or negative outcomes. Although most children’s places adapt successfully to family environments, children respond very differently to their parents’ separation. However, research shows that divorce causes more problems in child care and emotional health of children. It is open.
For this reason, marriage counselors and family counselors are definitely consulted. If there is a situation to prevent divorce, it is useful to do them.
Conflict is inevitable to some extent in marriage and especially in the case of divorce. Therefore, it is useful to consider not only how the conflict between parents can be reduced, but also how to manage it in the best way. There are many interventions for couples to more effectively manage the conflict between them during and after the divorce. Techniques have been developed. The most striking is the mediation of divorce.
Therefore, conflict between couples can affect children directly or indirectly through numerous processes.
One of the processes that directly affect it is that conflict is a source of stress in itself, and researches reveal that 18-month-old children lose their mood during angry conversations and this distress becomes more evident in their efforts to participate in the discussion when they reach the age of 5-6.
Conflict disrupts the relationship between parent and child, creating indirect effects both in terms of discipline and emotional security of children. Conflict not only undermines every parent relationship of children; it also creates an inconsistency between parents about discipline due to disagreements. The source of inconsistent discipline Discipline can be deliberately provocative when children become a battleground between parents, as may be different parenting philosophies or a lack of communication.
Therefore, stress and loyalty dilemma, which is the most damaging type of conflict, as well as deterioration in parent-child relationships, inconsistent disciplinary process seem to activate more.