Self-confidence can be defined with the following concepts: having ideas accepted, optimism, being willing, love, pride, independence, trust, being open to criticism, having the ability to evaluate emotional maturity and capacity correctly.
What is Self-Confidence?
Confidence; having a positive and realistic understanding of ourselves and our abilities. On the other hand, lack of self-confidence; It can be defined with concepts such as self-doubt, passivity, submission, over-adaptability, loneliness, sensitivity to criticism, insecurity, depression, feelings of inferiority and feeling unloved.
How Does a Lack of Self-Confidence Develop?
Feelings of inferiority and hopelessness often emerge after some negative life experiences at home, school or work. For example, your parents may not have been able to provide you with a healthy and supportive environment while you were growing up. They may be very critical, demanding, and/or overprotective of you. As a result, you start to think negatively about yourself.
Losing a family member or close friend. For example: your parents’ divorce, being away from your home for the first time (separating from family and friends), breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Rather than perceiving negative events such as failure and disappointment as an experience, dwelling on them too much. Being too harshly critical of oneself or one’s abilities. Evaluating the consequences of events worse than they actually are.
Feeling too much pressure to meet the wishes and expectations of your family and friends about you, and this situation changes your own identity.
prevent you from developing and making your own decisions.
Setting unrealistic goals.
Fear of failure. For example; Thinking of yourself as useless and unsuccessful when you fail a class, rather than thinking of yourself as a good person who failed a class.
How do you increase your self-confidence?
Think positively about yourself.
Set goals that are realistic and meet your expectations. Set reasonable goals so that what you achieve is close to the goals you originally intended to achieve. This supports your self-confidence and self-satisfaction. William James, one of the pioneers of psychology, says:
“ Self-satisfied = What we have achieved / What we aim to achieve
Be proud of yourself and reward yourself when you achieve something. When something bad or sad happens, become aware of your negative thoughts.
Think logically about the situation you’re in, rather than acting purely on your emotions.
Focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. that you are more competent and assertive in certain subjects than others and that you
Realize that it is impossible to be perfect in your field.
Don’t just attribute what you do and succeed to luck. Instead, be proud of yourself for your personal achievements.
Defend your ideas. In other words, learn to express your own feelings, thoughts, beliefs, needs, honestly and clearly, without violating the rights of others.
Learn to stand up for your rights and say “no” to unreasonable requests. A training you will receive in expressing your ideas clearly,
It can help you a lot in building your self-confidence.
Make a list of issues that you believe are important in your life. Then write down ways to improve or change them. All
Of course, your problems cannot be solved easily and quickly, but there will be some areas where you can act immediately.
Things to Remember to Improve Confidence
Focus on good things over bad things.
· Think positively about yourself.
· Learn from your experiences.
· Set realistic goals.
· Be courageous.
· Keep learning.
· Do useful things.
· Emphasize simplicity.
· Welcome change.