Loss and Mourning

Life events such as divorce, separation, illness, death are among the types of loss. When one thinks of loss, the first thing that comes to mind is death.

A person experiences many life events that he can control throughout his life, such as education, work, marriage, and having a child. On the other hand, death that develops outside of human control is an inevitable reality. The loss of a loved one, which is one of the life events that affect people deeply, and the grieving process that comes with it is a very difficult period. While continuing his life, the individual is faced with an event where the continuity is broken.

Reactions during the grieving process are normal reactions to an abnormal situation. Psychological, physical, cognitive and behavioral reactions after loss are universal. When the expected normal mourning reactions are not shown against this abnormal situation, problems begin to arise for the person. In addition to the universality of these reactions, the grieving process may differ from person to person. The source of this difference is factors such as life experiences, relationship with the disappeared person, cultural characteristics and the current life of the individual.

According to studies, the normal grieving process is evaluated in five stages:

  1. Denial and Shock: As soon as the person learns about his loss, it is difficult for him to accept it. In this stage, the person denies the loss he has experienced. The thought, “This could not have happened to me,” may come to mind.

  2. Anger:The person in this stage may ask himself questions such as “Why me?”, “Why did this happen to me?” and anger may come out.

  3. Bargain: The person may start bargaining by saying, “Good things should happen to me from now on.” Feeling the sense of justice shaken, he wants to rebuild justice. This phase is accompanied by thoughts such as “If this happens, I will do this”, “Can there be another chance to get better?”

  4. Depression: When the person realizes that the situation he is in has not changed despite all his efforts, he may experience a depressed mood. There are tendencies such as introversion, unhappiness, and not enjoying previous activities.

  5. Acceptance: In this stage, the person begins to face his loss and reorganize his life. She makes an effort to cope with her loss by accepting what happened.

It is quite normal to experience the five stages of the normal grieving process mentioned above. If the individual cannot complete these stages and has difficulty returning to their daily routines, they should seek professional support.

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