Lives lost through peer bullying

We call peer bullying when a child is subjected to verbal or physical violence by a similar age group. In this process, which started in the primary school period and continues until the end of the high school period, we are losing many of our youth/children unknowingly. Bullying attitudes such as condescending words, mocking, confiscating belongings without permission, getting one’s homework done, exclusion from the circle of friends are indicators of peer bullying. The last stage of this is sexual or physical assault. In particular, places where no one will see are preferred. It is our teachers who can recognize peer bullying and direct it to experts. However, we see that the negative effects of peer bullying on the child are not fully known and that the necessary intervention is not made. However, if timely intervention is not made, serious lack of self-confidence and anxiety disorders are observed in the child. Since all kinds of violence are contagious, a child who is bullied at school may apply the same bullying to his family or younger sibling at home.

How can peer bullying be prevented?

The home environment is very important to us. The child does not practice any movement that he does not see in the family or in his immediate environment. First of all, the parents of the child who practices the peer bullying should be examined. For example, if the father applies emotional/physical violence to the mother or children at home, the child will also apply it to his school friend. The most important thing we should pay attention to in the education of our children should be to instill a sense of empathy. The child, who thinks about how the violence is applied to himself, will stop doing this to his friend. The way to establish healthy communication in public environments is to respect people. The child learns to respect in the family, which is the smallest unit of society. What is not taught cannot be expected to be implemented.

Our second control point is our teachers. Our teacher, who realizes the situation in the classroom, should direct the children to the guidance service. This problem should not be overlooked without telling the family because physical or emotional violence increases with exposure. In schools, which is our second learning point, lessons should be given under the name of adab-ı muaşeret and these problems should be reduced. Every step taken to protect and improve mental health will save a person’s life and the family life he will establish in the future.

How do you know if your child is being bullied?

With symptoms such as introversion, extreme silence, unhappiness, and not wanting to go to school, you can understand whether your child is being bullied or not. Asking your child what he does every day and keeping in touch will help you observe the changes in his mood. If necessary, you can change schools. I recommend that you do not hesitate to seek expert support for the damage to the child’s emotional state. Damages experienced during this period can leave permanent scars. Remember that it is your primary duty as a parent to monitor your child and protect him or her from the aggression of the outside world.


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