Successful resolution of interpersonal problems is free from stereotypes that limit people’s thoughts.
It requires them to get rid of them and consider them from different perspectives. with different perspectives on problems
In order to approach, it is inevitable for us to be an active listener first.
In order to find solutions to interpersonal problems that everyone wins, problems are as different as possible.
aspects must be examined. First of all, after the determination of the situation in which the conflict is experienced, it is necessary for the people to
self-directed perceptions and how they interpret this situation are very important.
To give children a different perspective, to develop empathic ways of thinking, children’s favorite
It can be transferred and developed through dialogues through fairy tales and anecdotes. Tales are interpersonal relationships, morality and
They transfer their way of thinking about values and the common thoughts of the society from generation to generation.
As you know in fairy tales, there are always good and always bad characters, one is naive and the other is cunning, one is right and the other is wrong.
has. In conflicts, children always blame the bad, and the good is the absolute good who develops solutions.
they see as. From the point of view of only one side (only the good) in the problems we face
Defining the situation is a very wrong attitude. By listening to both parties, the events were defined,
It will be more beneficial in terms of enriching the solutions with different perspectives.
Now, with this point of view, we revisit the joke that Nasreddin Hodja stole yeast in the lake and said “what if”
Let’s examine. The person who met Nasreddin Hodja on the shore of the lake until today
We listened with his narration. Now let’s listen to Hodja himself;
“I was on my way home from the market that day. Take a rest by the lake on the way and
I took a break to eat something. I had some bread and yogurt with me. When he finishes the meal, he puts the yogurt container
I couldn’t leave it that way. I thought I’d at least rinse it off with water. This is just as I was rinsing the yogurt container in the lake.
the man came. He greeted and asked, “What are you doing, Hodja Effendi?” People’s meaningless questions
Even though I’m used to being asked, you know that sometimes I can’t help but make fun of such people.
You know, when you walk in the door and they ask a silly question, “Oh, did you come?” Here is this man
So is the question. Can’t you see, man, I’m washing the yogurt dishes. Anyway, something to hurt a man
I said “I’m playing yeast in the lake” so as not to say anything. Look at the purity of the man, hold it and say, “Hodja lake
Does the yeast hold?” I don’t know what you would say, but I’m going to get this man out of my head as soon as possible.
I said “what if” to stave off. Confused, he left. When he got to the village, he said to everyone, “Hodja, put yeast in the lake.
“It’s ringing,” he gossiped.
As we have heard from that man until now, we used to get the message of “not giving up hope on anything” from this joke.
So what message did you get now?
Share the event with your child at your tea time at home, and it will help us to see things from different perspectives.
Discuss what you can gain.