One of the biggest fears of every mother is the loss of her child. Crowded areas such as shopping malls or bazaars are the places where children are most at risk of getting lost. Although it seems like a solution to hold the child’s hand tightly and drag it so that it does not disappear, this situation does not help the child in terms of what he should do when he is lost.
Of course, especially preschool children must be held by an adult. However, no matter how much we hold their hands or take our eyes off them, small children can sometimes disappear in a blink of an eye. We often see parents looking for their children in stores or in open spaces. In this case, it is important to inform the child about the disappearance situations as well as taking precautions.
How can we warn the child against disappearances?
Information that is age appropriate, simple, understandable and not frightening should be given. Often, we do not prepare children very well for the situations they may encounter in daily life. However, in daily conversations, talking about various problem situations in accordance with their age and teaching how to behave in these situations will ensure the preparation of the child.
How should we inform him about how to act in the event that he lost his parents?
Teach him to call you by your name. There may be more than one child shouting “mom, dad” in a crowded place. You can distinguish your child from other children when they call you by your name.
Teach her to ask for help from another mother. The biggest mistake parents make is the “don’t talk to strangers” warning. Instead, we should teach our children not to go anywhere with anyone without asking their parents. Young children may have difficulty recognizing and distinguishing the security guard. For this reason, a mother with a child is someone that the child can reach more easily than a security guard. School-age children, on the other hand, can recognize places such as security guards or information centers and seek help from there.
Often, we do not prepare children very well for the situations they may encounter in daily life. However, in daily conversations, talking about various problem situations in accordance with their age and teaching how to behave in these situations will ensure the preparation of the child. For example, when you enter the mall, talk to your child about what you would do if they were separated from each other. Offer simple suggestions. The most important point here is to tell your child that if he gets lost, he should stay in his place and you will come and find him.
Let him experience what to do when he gets lost outside by playing hiding games at home.
Save the latest version of your child to your phone. That way, you can more easily seek help from others.
They steal you, they take you away, how does their discourse affect children?
Being separated from parents is stressful enough for young children. Especially in crowded places. The child is afraid when he cannot find his parents. Reinforcing this fear with inappropriate discourses can lead to increased fear, especially not being able to separate from the mother, adjustment problems and nightmares.
When missing children are found, what should we pay attention to in our behavior towards the child?
The missing child was terrified. Of course her parents too. In the face of this fear, shouting at the child, giving excessive emotional reactions, asking accusatory questions about why he left your side increase the fear of the child and cause him to feel guilty.
For this reason, when the child is found, it is sufficient at the first stage to just hug and say that you are very happy to be reunited. After everything has calmed down and everyone has calmed down, talk again about the next time you should stay by your side and the ways you will follow in case of getting lost.