Trauma is the state of being shaken by feelings such as physical or mental injury, fear and helplessness as a result of a direct or indirect experience. Traumas awaken negative emotions in the person, sometimes they are memories that we suppress to protect ourselves, and they often affect our emotions and behaviors.
Apart from sudden events, a long-term negativity can also cause trauma. Take, for example, the issue of your father coming home drunk every day when you were a child. Your father’s coming home drunk one night may not have meant anything to you as a child. But as the process continues, you may have had a neglected childhood or experienced violence. In such a case, your childhood memories may turn into traumatic memories. Many situations such as witnessing an event that will shake you, abuse, domestic violence, fire, accident, death can also cause trauma.
Traumas have long-lasting effects. Sometimes it causes big changes in your behavior, and sometimes you can see its effects on your self-perception. Even a trauma you experienced as a child has a devastating effect on both your social and emotional relationships. In addition, because it reduces our ability to cope with stress, we feel weak and powerless in stressful situations and allow the feeling of helplessness to take over us.
To cope with the trauma, do not be afraid to talk about the event or situation. In such a situation, the person may be reluctant to talk to protect himself from the devastating effects of the trauma, withdraw from people, withdraw, do not want to remember or see anything about the event, and may even tend to suppress and ignore the event. Loneliness makes you hear your thoughts, you can turn the situation into an inextricable hole in your head. In such cases, it will be better for you to spend time with the people you feel close to. Also, suppressing the traumatic memory only prolongs the healing process.
Confronting your trauma may be very difficult for you or harder than you think. In such a situation, remind yourself that you will not take a step back and that you will overcome this situation in time. It may not be right away, but in time you will recover from the effects of your trauma.
If you cannot do anything about the situation you are in, you can gradually open yourself up and get rid of your traumas in a professional environment with a psychologist. It is possible to gain a different perspective during the therapy process and remove the effects of the traumatic event from your life. The important thing is the right help and the people around you who understand you.