There is little time left for the opening of a new academic year. Of course, school fear is one of the most observed cases in children at school openings. School phobia and hyperactivity disorder can be seen especially in children starting primary school.
Children with “School Fear” as it is known among the people, in fact, “Separation Anxiety” with its medical name, are dependent on their mothers. It is very difficult to get these children into the classroom by separating them from their mothers. The child resists, clings to his mother, cries, and wants his mother to stay with him. If such a situation persists for a long time, we recommend that the family consult a specialist.
If the treatment is delayed, children’s anxiety may increase. As a result, problems for the child and family increase, and it takes longer time to develop appropriate attitudes.
After the child starts school, attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder may also be experienced. Many of these children are also very active and impulsive in the pre-school period, so it is noticed by their families that they act in the first way that comes to their mind. However, some of them draw the attention of their teachers because of the lack of attention, but after they start school, they are distracted in the lessons and cannot pay attention to the lesson. If these children are not treated, they may be stigmatized as “failed, not understanding, not listening, naughty”. It is also known that when appropriate treatment is not applied in these children, problems such as behavioral disorder symptoms, drug and substance abuse are more common in the future. However, with appropriate diagnosis and treatment, it is possible for these children to reach the level they deserve socially, emotionally and academically.
School phobia should not become chronic
School Phobia is a childhood disease that begins when the child does not want to go to school or seems extremely reluctant and uninterested in school. If the child’s reluctance and fear towards school is not taken seriously by the family and the teacher, the school phobia becomes chronic and may result in an interrupted school life.
School Phobia, which we can also call school phobia, manifests itself with both psychological (non-normal behaviors such as crying, irritability, aggression) and physical problems (headache, nausea, loss of appetite…).
SYMPTOMS OF SCHOOL PHOBIA
School phobia is most evident in September and October and before the start of the second half of school, and the typical symptoms of school phobia, which are most common in primary school students, are as follows:
When the child hears the word ‘school’, he attacks. He is extremely uninterested and reluctant about school. Sleep patterns are disrupted. Usually shy in dealing with people other than family members. They worry about success and appreciation. He is afraid of the teacher and the structure outside his home. They choose to live hectic, restless and introverted lives. They bring up unfounded illnesses that are not based on any physical reason for not going to school. They are extremely careless with school supplies. He doesn’t make friends. They are afraid of school.
FACTORS AFFECTING SCHOOL PHOBIA
School phobia is more common in children aged 6-11. School phobia is more common in female students than in male students. Family factor in School Phobia; It is more common in children from over-protective, fussy, entangled families, in children who do not have a social life outside of their family until they start school, in children from divorced families who live depending on a parent, and in children who have lost a family member due to death, illness, or moving. Teacher and school factor in School Phobia; It is more common in overcrowded classrooms, in the classroom of a hard-tempered teacher, in oppressive, rote, abusive and overly prescriptive education systems.
If the child’s reluctance and fear towards school is not taken seriously by the family and the teacher, the school phobia becomes chronic and may result in an interrupted school life. For this reason, consider your children who do not want to go to school and when they hear the word school, take into account your children and ask for help from their teacher and an expert.
School phobia is an invitation to failure
It should be kept in mind that if the problems caused by the fear of school in children are not resolved in a timely manner, this fear invites failure for life.
School phobia is more likely to occur in families where individuals are highly dependent on each other. The best thing to do for a child returning home from school fright is to get him back to school as soon as possible.
The child is afraid that something will happen to his family in his absence, or that they will leave him, or that something will happen to him in the absence of his parents. Such children are overly anxious, adaptable, and over-approved.
The child with school phobia must be shown to a specialist and act in accordance with his recommendations. In the treatment of this disease, family treatment is required as well as individual treatment of the child. The child who comes home due to fear of school should be taken back to school without delay. Insist on your child returning to school. The best thing to do with school fright is to get your child back to school as soon as possible. Attending school helps reduce the physiological symptoms of school phobia, and eventually your child begins to enjoy going to school again. So reassure your child that he will feel better as long as he continues to go to school.
“BE STRONG THAN EVER AT TIME TO GO TO SCHOOL”
School mornings can be difficult at first. Do not ask your child how he or she is feeling during these times. Because this will give your child the opportunity and courage to complain. Observe your child, if he can walk around the house and does not seem too uncomfortable, he will be able to go to school.
If your child has physical complaints that are similar to their general complaints, prepare and send him to school immediately without much discussion. If you are worried about your child’s health, a doctor’s check will be helpful. Otherwise, send it to the school and inform the teacher, if your child becomes seriously ill, ask them to call you and let you know.
When your child is late for school, misses the bus, be sure to develop other solutions to send him to school and send him to school as soon as possible. Sometimes your child may return home on their own, in which case all you have to do is send them back to school. Informing your child’s teacher about the subject helps the teacher to understand your child. Informing the teacher will enable the teacher to be more tolerant of some of your child’s behaviors.
“TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT SCHOOL FEARS”
It would be helpful to talk to children about school phobia at a time outside of school. Don’t blame or belittle your child about school phobia. Explain that this situation can be experienced by many children and that they will definitely feel better in time. Try to find out what exactly is making your child unhappy. Ask your child what the worst thing that could happen is that.
If you can do anything about it, say that you will do your best. If your child is afraid that the physical symptoms will increase too much at school, tell the teacher that he can rest for 10-15 minutes in a suitable place. Children with school phobia want to spend more time with their families outside of school, play at home, be alone in their rooms or watch television.
Many of them cannot stay at their friend’s house at night and want to return home immediately. In such situations, encourage your child to spend time with their peers. Sending them to various activities, inviting their friends to stay overnight at your house will help your child. Those who don’t want to go to school either have a stomachache or a headache. Children who are newly acquainted with education life or who have various problems at school may look for ways not to go to school, using diseases that do not exist in reality. If the problems caused by the fear of school are not resolved in time, they invite failure for life.