On the basis of the psychoanalytic theory, we can see that the father is actually taken up with an important role. In the Oedipus Complex, which is a part of Freud’s theory, Freud talked about a father figure who wanted to replace him and whose power he wanted to have. Freud included such a father figure in almost all his works. But then this father figure; She found herself in a situation in which the functions of the mother were in the foreground. For many years, theorists have included the object relationship between mother and child and the role of the mother. Lacan drew attention to this situation, but he also discussed fatherhood by talking about the place of the father in language development, not developmentally. The reason why the father is so overshadowed is that the mother has existed from the very beginning, and it is possible to talk about the existence of a relationship even before birth. While motherhood is a biological event and there is no room for doubt, the father has always been the one to struggle with doubt. The father became the figure who later joined this relationship with the social. I would like to give a short example here by taking a short break. There were times when I witnessed these doubts very closely due to my job. Babies born to another man before the divorce has taken place are registered in the population of whoever the mother is currently married to. In custody cases, this situation appears as a phenomenon that prolongs the process considerably. There are a lot of babies who are thrown around with the sentences “I am not the father, but I do not give custody”. On the one hand, the baby is an instrument of hatred, on the other hand, he is the one who raises suspicion: “Am I the father? Who?” There is only one clear truth at that moment. Mom. No one can doubt who the mother is. While this does not need to be proven, the father; He has to prove his paternity. Maybe it is because of this situation that the place of the father existed at the beginning of the psychoanalytic theory and then was forgotten for a while, and it took years for it to come out of the shadows.
As long as the mother does not look at the father, the baby does not see the father. It was the mother’s gaze that showed the father again. The father was reached indirectly, the mother’s gaze was followed, and the father was seen when looking where he was looking. When we consider the father in the oedipal plane, we can also consider the father as the object of the mother’s desire. It is a three-person relationship, again quite far from the archaic relationship between mother and baby. The child got to know the father and encountered conflict here as well. The father will appear here as the legislator. One of the functions of paternity is to show the incest prohibition to the child. It is up to the father to regulate the libidinal investment in the mother, to assist in this task. The father ends the oedipal confusion by revealing castrative anxiety. Lacan attributes an important role to the father here, and the task of breaking the symbiotic bond between mother and baby is given to the father. The child needs the father’s law. The father revealed the existence of the law by forbidding the mother to the child. As we mentioned in the previous lines here, for the father to fulfill his paternal function, he must exist as the object of the mother’s desire. After hearing the name of the father from the mother, the child entered that path that opened up to language, culture and social order. In the Oedipal conflict, when the child realizes that by the father’s law he cannot be with the mother and replace the father, the way to be like the father will be opened. Here, too, we arrive at another paternal function. Self ideal. From now on, the child will stop wanting to take the place of the father, will become like the father, and will identify with the father. If separation from the mother cannot occur, the way of identification will not be opened.