Adolescence can basically be defined as the transition period from childhood to adult life. Adolescence is a very important period in the life of every individual. Because it is a time of change as well as transition. Happy and healthy individuals are raised with the support of their family in this phase where there are such important changes and the person now sees himself and his environment from a different window. During this period, there may be great problems in the family. The biggest reason for this is the insufficient knowledge of parents about adolescence and incomplete parent-child communication.
The biggest problem experienced in this period is that parents do not have much information about this issue. They must remain undecided about how to treat children. As a result, the adolescent may distance himself emotionally from his parents, thinking that they have very different worlds. At the same time, there can be a discussion when you feel that you are not understood. At this point, communication with the adolescent is very important.
First of all, parents should learn the characteristics of adolescence very well. In addition to the visible bodily changes that occur during this period, the changes experienced in the thought systems and emotional worlds cause the child, whom they know very well, to act in a completely different way, contrary to the attitudes and behaviors that they always exhibit. During this period, parents who question what kind of an individual they are and gain awareness about themselves may be alienated from the family, their friends may come even before the family from time to time, and the importance of seeing themselves as part of a group should be considered normal by parents. Knowing that the reason behind dressing in a style adopted among friends, having hairstyles and using popular words is to be an individual who is loved and appreciated among their peers, will solve many question marks in the minds of parents. Ignoring this, criticisms made about their very sensitive appearance will drag the mother-father-child relationship into unnecessary arguments and tensions. It is beneficial for families to act knowing that some emotions and behaviors are the characteristics of this period.
If the other important duties of mothers and fathers are listed; first and foremost is that the relationship between them is solid and consistent. For this, it is necessary to establish the correct form of communication. It will be much easier for parents who keep themselves open about a quality communication, look at the events from their perspective in order to understand the other side, and show a serious determination while doing these, to overcome the difficulties encountered in this period. Avoiding a judgmental tone of voice, trying to speak calmly, finding an interesting conversation topic and trying to keep it, talking to the adolescent in the way one would like to be spoken to while talking to him is extremely important for a correct and effective communication. The adolescent should be released within certain limits. She should be able to think and act as she pleases within those limits. Although the adolescent wants to be free, he also likes to be within certain limits. It can also strengthen the relationship.
Accurate and high-quality communication not only for the adolescence period but also for all periods ensures a strong parent-child relationship. The reason for emphasizing on adolescence is that children in this period should not feel alone while making decisions that may affect their lives in the future, without being away from the family, and that they should receive the greatest support they need from their parents in order to make the right choices.