Empathy for All

What was empathy? Empathy was understanding! Putting yourself in the other person’s place!

It was trying to understand the feelings, thoughts, feelings, desires, wishes and needs of the other person while putting ourselves in their shoes!

I put myself in the place of the other person, what will happen? This is how I live! some might say.

Actually, for this job, we have to go all the way to the beginning and start from there.

So from childhood…

Children who are given responsibilities appropriate for their age, who feel really listened to and understood, and who are allowed to show the courage to ask what they have in mind, can be individuals who can establish “Empathy” when they become adults.

Making an effort to understand the other person is primarily about understanding ourselves.

From recognizing yourself in understanding…

Self-knowledge, positive or negative, strong or weak, cute or unpleasant. Being aware of oneself and oneself in every aspect. In addition, knowing these will provide the person with an easier and faster coping skill or strategy.

Once I know and understand myself, I will get to know the other person.

I will try to evaluate it in all its features and its own story. Later I will witness that I have already understood and that many knots have been untied.

Of course, this system may not always work in such a perfect order. At the point where it doesn’t work, we need to be able to go back and ask ourselves the right questions. Sometimes it can be a good thing that it doesn’t work. It can make it easier for us to see and realize the missing, faulty, faulty side.

Who am I ?

what do i feel?

What do I want ?

What do I expect from myself?

What will I gain from understanding the other person?

to feel better

sense of acceptance

Better communication

sense of importance

feeling safe

reasoning skill

Problem Solving skill

A solution-oriented structure

social relationship skill

For more empathy;

To listen

Active listening to the other person. Using verbal or non-verbal expressions indicating that we are listening with gestures, facial expressions and some bodily movements, asking questions about the subject (curiosity), giving feedback

Be Open to Different Ideas

Different kinds of books, learning a new language, discovering new cultures, tasting new tastes, a new hobby, meeting new people

Think – Wait – Speak

Sometimes filtering what we say in our head, using traffic lights to stop and think at red, filter what we think in yellow, and speak if we feel ready in green.

Know yourself

Write down what you like and dislike about yourself, keep a diary, review your strengths and weaknesses, accept yourself as you are, ask yourself what I feel and want from time to time, what do you do when you feel good?, What do you do when you feel bad? review your questions.

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