Temper tantrums and aggression are within the normal developmental period; It starts at the age of 2 and continues until the age of 4, and it is expected to decrease after the age of 6. If the aggressive behavior continues after the age of 6, it means that there is an adjustment problem. Children go through different developmental stages at all ages. They try to adapt to new situations throughout the semester. At the end of each period, they are expected to adapt to new characteristics and situations. If the child moves to the next period without adapting to the characteristics of the age period, adaptation problems arise here. If the aggressive behavior continues after the age of 6, regardless of the situation, the child may have an adjustment problem related to anger. If not intervened correctly, tantrums and aggressive behavior will continue to increase.
Misbehaviors That Cause Aggression
Unnecessarily inhibiting the child’s behavior
Criticizing or ignoring the child’s behavior and wishes
Punishing the child frequently
Being a negative role model in the child’s environment
No limits on the child
What not to do:
Being a negative model for the child. Shouting, swearing, punishing by hitting.
Being insensitive to the child’s aggressive behavior.
Do whatever you want because he is aggressive.
Trying to say sensible things when the child is angry.
comparing the child with others
What to do:
Setting effective boundaries and rules for the child.
After the child has discharged his negative feelings and calmed down, explain the consequences of his aggressive behavior.
Involving the child in group activities where he can drain his energy and increase his social interaction.
To meet their basic needs in a timely and sensitive manner.
children; To respect and support their desires, wishes, curiosity and entrepreneurship.
Different emotions often underlie the feeling of anger.
It is important to understand the underlying emotion of anger and to express it. If the child cannot make sense of his true emotion or has to suppress it, his anger reactions increase even more. What should be done to increase the expressions of emotion?
Share your own feelings
Regularly ask your child about his feelings
Monitor their body language and provide feedback to detect nonverbal signs of their emotions.
Watch for any changes in behavior patterns, this may indicate some emotion repression.
Organize games and activities to understand and express emotions correctly. Thanks to the activities, the child gains practice and learns to express his feelings correctly.
Simple game suggestions: Creating a dictionary of emotions with pictures from magazines and newspapers or playing charades for the purpose of understanding emotion expressions with only gestures and facial expressions that do not contain words. A variety of games can be created like this one that includes understanding and expressing emotions. Anger and emotions-themed books for children or painting for emotional expression, playing with dough and toys also contribute to emotional expressions. There are many methods like this and more, it’s up to your creativity.