Computers are very useful in terms of developing your children’s intelligence and investigative aspect. However, like everything else, too much of the computer is harmful. What should parents do to discourage children who do not leave the computer in front of the computer during the school period and during the summer holidays?
Today, computers have become indispensable in our lives. However, we see the negative consequences as well as the conveniences it adds to our lives. Parents need to pay attention to the issue in order for children to develop the right habits in computer use. If your child spends more and more time at the computer, misses the computer even when he is busy with another job, does not pay attention to you and his friends, does not care about other activities, has physical problems such as back, wrist, headache, it can be mentioned that addiction. Parents need to be careful about this.
I believe that the following simple suggestions will be beneficial for the families of “computer and internet addicted” children;
• First of all, the time that the child allocates to the computer every day should be determined. If the total time is more than one hour for preschool children and two hours for primary school children, adults can limit it.
• A contract can be made for the child to gain computer usage time, provided that he/she does domestic work. If the cost of using a computer is high, the child’s desire may decrease. For example, “If you go to the market and shop, you will gain half an hour of computer time.”
• One of the easiest ways to prevent overuse is to put the computer in a place where adults can follow it, such as a hallway or co-working room. If more than one person in the family uses the same computer, the child; Develops social skills such as taking turns and respecting other people’s belongings. In addition, it is determined for what purpose the child uses the computer and the Internet.
• If the parents’ dominance over the computer world increases, they can play games with the children. They can control the contents of programs and games. They can direct them to games with educational values. Parents who want to improve their children’s emotional intelligence can benefit from programs and games for problem solving, expressing and developing thoughts and feelings. Programs containing tasks related to remembering, grouping, eye-hand coordination for 3-5 year olds, activities related to reading, writing and reasoning for 6-8 year olds, abstract concepts for 9-12 year olds, advanced problem solving materials should be chosen.
• Natural activities should be preferred instead of virtual, you can direct your children to meet their friends in natural ways and create new opportunities for them.
• Time should be allocated for sports activities, sports is an extremely necessary activity for the physical, mental, spiritual and social development of children.
• Friendship relationships should be supported, you should support your child’s friendships and encourage him to maintain existing friendships and establish new friendships. Your child will choose to be with friends instead of spending too long and unnecessary time on the computer.
• Social skills training should be given, children should be encouraged to communicate within their peer groups. If the child has difficulty in communicating, initiating and maintaining communication, social skills training can be used.
• Parents should not set unenforceable rules regarding computer use, and should not be told to “stop this bad habit”.
• Expert help should be sought. If you observe that your child is increasingly addicted to computer games and chatting on the computer despite doing these, and if this negatively affects your child’s school success and social life, you can seek help from a specialist.