What is compassion and what is not? What is mercilessness?
Concepts; They are semantic maps that enable us to express our thoughts and beliefs. For this reason, human beings explain themselves with concepts. In order to make it easier to describe what happened, we must first have a good grasp of the concepts.
Master Necip Fazıl said, “Mercy is the elixir we need like air and water. It is a force that will turn an upside down society upside down” and emphasized the importance of compassion that will soften hearts.
Man is love, man is mercy, man is hope, man is morality, man is virtue. Man recognizes himself in man, man is man’s homeland, as man’s spirit rises, his soul descends and his compassion rises.
Mercy;It is our most important and most precious treasure, which encompasses all the moral virtues cultivated in our creation, removes the hardness and gloom of the heart, softens the heart, heals the soul, body and human.
Mercy; It is a moral virtue that softens hardened hearts and enables love to settle over hatred. Compassion enlightens the mind and warms the heart.
Mercy;compassion, feeling, caring, trust, reassurance, sharing, self-sacrifice, love, respect, understanding, being understood, empathy, benevolence, tears, tolerance, patience, justice, responsibility, humility, sensitivity, hearing the cries of the world, softening the heart…
We can compare mercy to that clean and white blanket that surrounds nature after it snows. With compassion, we take our love and compassion with us in every step we take from ourselves to the other, to the environment, to nature, and we clean our souls, cover up evil, and heal our own and others’ souls, just as that white cloth cleans the whole place.
Compassion is ‘what is not’ If I talk about mercy; It’s not pity, it’s not weakness, it’s not always being kind, it’s not being silent in the face of problems, it’s not putting up with suffering, it’s not saying yes to everything you’re told or doing everything you’re told, it’s not ignoring or forgetting yourself, it’s not giving unlimited freedom to the other person, it’s not pretending no wrong has been done …
mercilessness; It is a lack of peace, it is a lack of love, it is selfishness, it is indifference, it is intolerance, it is envy, it is spiteful, it is succumbing to greed, it is arrogance, it is mischief, it is failing to keep a friend halfway, it is not keeping one’s promise, it is forgetting death, it is not doing good, but the most painful mercilessness is the death of the heart. Man must first have mercy on himself. One should realize how merciless harms himself, his environment and the world, and most importantly, how it pollutes the world.
We give something of ourselves for mercy; time, attention, patience, loyalty, love, interest, etc. There is mobility in compassion. In compassion, there is acting with the pain of the other, being unable to stand still with his pain, and making an effort to relieve that pain. In mercy, there is the ability to look with the eyes of the soul.
He who helps the hand reaching out to him as much as he can, feels better. Those who can share, run to the other, know the other’s pain as their own; in other words, those who have mercy live this life more meaningfully and peacefully. Mercy is good for the heart that can show mercy first, and the soul of the one who shows mercy finds healing.
Let’s listen to the following lines of Mevlana:
Be like the sun as in tenderness and mercy
Be like the NIGHT in covering up the faults of others
Be like AKARSU in generosity and helping
Be like the DEAD in anger and irritability,
Be like EARTH in humility and humility
Be like the sea in tolerance,
EITHER LOOK AS YOU ARE OR BE AS YOU APPEAR
What would you recommend to teach children about compassion and spread it in society?
It is compassion that keeps us together, initiates and maintains our relationships, makes our lives more meaningful and livable, illuminates our hearts, souls and paths, and silences the voice of evil.
We should appreciate what we have and what we have in our creation. When we are about to lose what we have, or when we are faced with losing it, we realize its value.
To give an example, if our access to the water we have is restricted, we will better understand the value of that water. To give another example, when any of our limbs are damaged or lost, we realize that its existence is invaluable.
We can give many examples of such concrete situations. There are also intangible virtues that we know exist and that make our lives beautiful with their existence. Such as mercy, justice, humility, generosity. We must keep these virtues alive. We adults have a great responsibility to develop and strengthen these feelings in our children who are entrusted to us. A parent who is merciful in every step raises a merciful child.
We must instill compassion in our children, who are the trustees of our future. If there is a note that we adults want to send to the future, it is our children who will carry that note and keep it alive.
Let’s not forget that we can build a compassionate society as we approach our children, who are the shapers of the future, with our care and love.
I would like to talk a little bit about the roles of the parents in nurturing the innate compassion of the child. By displaying compassionate behaviors, we can teach the child to act compassionately. In the first years of life, the child learns by observing and hearing.
First of all, spouses should be merciful to each other, their environment, living things and nature, the parent should conduct some charity activities and visits with the child, if there is a hand that asks for help from the parent, the child should reach out to that hand and let the child taste the taste of sharing, and the child should be provided with food and water to the creatures living on the street. Such seemingly small steps in adult life are of much greater importance in the child’s world than is thought. Every process that develops the child’s compassion contributes positively to his spiritual world and psychological resilience.
There is no expectation in compassionate behavior, and this needs to be explained well, especially to children. Finally, I would like to remind you of a legacy left to us from our ancestors, by the way. “Do good and throw it into the sea, if the fish don’t know, the public will.”
WHAT ARE THE CONTRIBUTIONS OF MERHAMET TO MENTAL HEALTH?
While giving great importance to physical health; we forget that mental health determines physical health and psychological well-being. The body develops in its natural flow without our intervention, and we cannot resist this development. On the contrary, we need to invest in the development of the soul.
If we keep the soul’s immune system strong, the body’s immune system will also be strong. The basis of psychological resilience is the heart that realizes its compassion. Compassion is one of the basic virtues that feeds mental health and psychological well-being. A person who approaches himself, the environment and nature with compassion, gets in touch with himself, his environment and nature better and lives a satisfying life.
Compassion is the healing of the soul. We must try to decipher the language of the soul. We need to choose goodness for the strengthening of our compassion and psychological resilience.
It is the presence of compassion in them that makes all the virtues we have meaningful. There is compassion in all the emotions in our life. Compassion is a feeling that we are born with and that gets stronger as we get older on the path of life. If we do not nurture the compassion inherent in our creation and are deprived of compassion, our spirit will lose its vitality. The soul, which has lost its vitality, cannot fully do justice to life, cannot experience satisfaction in human relations, and stays away from the healing resources that exist for itself.
A person should return to his heart, not stay away from himself, he should know and love himself. People don’t like, don’t care, don’t invest in what they don’t know. The basis of psychological capital is self-awareness, which is as important as compassion. At the end of the road, we will first give an account of the life we have lived and lived, the good or bad traces we have left.
One should experience life with his own eyes, with his own mind. Not to be seen; One must live to see, to be the outstretched hand.
In human life, the function of compassion is vital in preventing the hardening of the brain and heart.
Compassion is the mind and fuel of the heart. If the heart loses its compassion, it goes blind. Where the seeing eyes are not blind, the heart in the chest may go blind. We need to invest in our sense of compassion so that the heart does not become blind, hardened and lack peace of mind. Compassion makes our lives and everything we touch beautiful.
One must first know how to have mercy on oneself. But we see that man shows the sharpest ruthlessness to himself. Self-compassion means being kind to yourself. When it is scored out of ten, it can be tolerated by giving two points to the mistake of the other; When a person makes the same mistake himself, he can be seriously cruel to himself by giving eight-nine points out of ten.
It is necessary to love yourself, to get along well with yourself and to have compassion for yourself, both in good times and in bad times.
Being compassionate towards oneself is meaningful and valuable. A person who does not have compassion for himself will not have enough or genuine compassion for others.
MERCY TO THE OTHER
A person with a merciful heart; He looks at nature, living things and the universe, from the ant on the ground to the bird in the sky, with the eye of mercy at every moment and everywhere.
A compassionate person hears the cries of those outside of himself, that is, those who are not from his neighborhood, and wants to do something of his own accord.
With every step he takes with compassion, he saturates his soul and heals his soul. Although apparently helping the other; First of all, every step he takes with his compassionate mercy is the healing of his own soul.
Societies also have compassion. Every compassionate individual is a compassionate community builder. One of the greatest virtues in preventing the contradictions or cruelty of societies is compassion.
CAN morbid morbidity arise from compassion?
Every living thing that comes into the world has been created with the seeds of compassion in its heart. Some of us have noticed these seeds and grown them with love, while some of us have not noticed the existence of these seeds and their effect has faded. But I would like to mention one detail so that no one will fall into despair. As a result of selfless treatment of a wilting flower, that flower will grow after a while, and when a person invests in his compassion, his compassion will be revived.
I would like all of our readers reading these lines to take a decision today and remove the thought of “compassion arises from a disease” as much as they can from their minds, and even decide to destroy this belief.
Mercy does not cause morbidity. Let’s not forget that if a disease is going to occur, it is not because of the mercy we show, but because of the mercilessness of the person in front of us. The merciless heart is the murderer of goodness.
The heart symbolizes the spiritual center within us, and there is mercy and goodness in the creation of the heart. Persistence in bad behavior darkens the heart, the person whose heart darkens loses his compassion, the heart of the person who loses his compassion is sick. A person whose heart is sick cannot taste the peace of compassion. Mercy; It is the complement of feelings, thoughts and virtues. Kindness, compassion, humility, justice and many more…
of the person; His positive attitudes and behaviors towards every living thing and nature are the reflection of the fountain of compassion cascading in his heart. At this point, I would like to tell you the story of Scorpion and Dervish.
The Story of the Scorpion and the Dervish
Dervish wants to save the scorpion that fell into the water. When he dips his hand into the water to save him, the scorpion stings his hand.
After a while, the dervish tries to remove the scorpion again and the scorpion stings his hand again.
Those who see this will say why are you helping this scorpion that hurts you even though you want to do good. Dervish’s answer is meaningful.
-“There is sting in the nature of the scorpion, but there is love and mercy in my nature. Should I change my disposition just because the scorpion is doing what it needs?”
I have observed this. It is as if a part of us is afraid of being good, doing good, living with a compassionate and soft heart, and sometimes tries to stay away from doing good. But it should not be forgotten that trying to stay away from the emotions in your existence only harms the person himself and decreases his life. We stay away from the thought that I will be treated badly, maybe by doing good and showing our mercy. But let’s not forget! Being silent and staying away so that I will not be subjected to cruelty, wrongdoing and ill-treatment means not giving a voice to the cruelty of the oppressor and supporting it. We have to stand up against the ruthlessness of the oppressor who persecutes the oppressed, and I must add this; It happens that if we are directly shocked and harm someone with our ruthlessness, we will harm the whole of humanity.
I would like to end my article with a few passages from Master Necip Fazıl Kısakürek’s work called Reis Bey.
The innocent prisoner says:
– “Prince sir! You cannot cry! If you could cry, you would understand. You believed that only evil can arise out of compassion and pity. Instead, you’re right. But because you forget what good will come from it, you lose the greatest right! Mercy has been removed from your heart! You are driving through the ice desert! Mister king! I wish your sealed heart to be opened. ”
-“Instead of reinforcing the power of evil in man by beating, to soften it hohla to hula. Mercy! The elixir we need like air and water… A power that will turn a society upside down. The child I mercilessly took to death; me, “You’re on your way through the ice desert.” he said. All of us, all of humanity, are traveling through the ice desert! Even the breaths we take freeze into sharp rocks. We stab with the eyes while looking, and poison with the ears when we listen! It makes the palate dirty, the hand freezes! We do not know the laws of all these, but we are trying to make laws! will it ever happen? You raise the tiger, feed it, then lasso, pull the rope just because it claws! Pity the tiger, it is a sin to the tiger, mercy!
-Then, are the measures of punishment, rights, justice and laws superfluous?
– Mr. Chief:
Not like that! These are measures on internal treatment, such as when the doctor is forced to prune a whole limb when he cannot find a cure.
-Sorry. Even if mercy is bread, if it is distributed to all humanity in slices, nothing will fall into your share, this is the cursed thing!
Of course, the dawn breaks at the end of the night. Let us not lose our compassion and hope. I wish you a merciful life.