Behavioral problems arise as a result of children putting their internal conflicts into behaviors. These problems vary depending on mental and physical reasons.
Children constantly measure the boundaries of their parents. The purpose of doing this is to gain individuality and autonomy. Sometimes the high expectations of the parents cause the child to disobey. As long as the parents do not show enough interest and concern for the child, this problem becomes the child’s way of saying “I am here”.
This type of behavior includes behaviors such as biting, hitting, damaging property (vandalism). In children who show vandalism, damaging things that do not belong to them comes to the fore. Children who show aggression are basically seen as insecure children. Since they do not expect good behavior from the outside, their primary reaction is to attack. Various spaces should be created for the child in order to reduce the child’s aggressive impulses. Impulse control programs are efforts to prevent such behaviors. For example, the ‘broken record technique’ is one of these studies. It is part of this technique to give the same answer using the same sentences to a child who is constantly insisting on something.
Bouts of Anger
It is expected that children will be able to control their anger after 4 years of age. However, if the parent is constantly angry and reflects this anger, the child can learn this behavior through observation or modeling and show similar reactions. In order to change this behavior, it is necessary to be the right role model and benefit from positive and negative reinforcements.
Stealing or Unauthorized Retrieval
Since children cannot develop a sense of belonging until the age of 6, they cannot grasp what belongs to them or not. Around the age of 8, there is an improvement in the sense of ownership. After this age, if he takes things that do not belong to him without permission, it can be perceived as a problem. Such problems often occur in children who experience emotional deficiencies and dissatisfaction. It’s a different version of saying “I’m here”. In such cases, it is necessary not to blame the children immediately, but not to approve of their behavior.
Do not lie
Children may not be able to distinguish what is right and wrong until they are 6 years old. They can tell and fictionalize something that has not happened as if it happened. At the age of 8, their ability to reason with reality develops. They are expected to be able to distinguish between right and wrong. Contradictory attitudes of parents in the face of facts are often situations that accustom children to lies. Fear of being punished or being accused is at the forefront among the reasons that lead to lying. Before parents label their children as liars, they should investigate the reasons behind it.