*Kenan and Handan had a happy marriage for a long time. Handan calls Kenan “Father” and Kenan also respects Handan “Mother” Handan, her husband who constantly corrects her. They agree on almost everything and the first idea is always expressed by Kenan. If you ask the inn’s opinion, she usually quotes her husband’s sentences.
*Fahriyei is a successful business woman. Men find her very attractive. They have had intense and short relationships many times. But these relationships end either when passion wanes or when it feels like it’s losing its freedom.
*Bengisu is afraid of his wife, who is constantly violent. Although she feels humiliated, she continues to love her husband. Her husband begs her for forgiveness and approaches her romantically, and she constantly forgives him, believing that her husband will never abuse her again.
We hear about this and similar lives in our lives, my dear readers!
We experts look at these experiences as co-dependence. Some of the codependents are in pain or silently despondent, while others are quite content, such as couples.
They are very good at anticipating and meeting the needs of the people around them. They simply deny or underestimate their own needs. If your basic needs were condemned or ignored in your childhood, you will continue to do the same to yourself. It locks on the emotions associated with them and you say, why would we notice a need if it won’t be met? Because ignoring it completely is more painful. For this reason, most codependents ignore their emotional needs as they learn to be self-sufficient. Even though you know you are loved, if you were never cared for and your feelings were not respected, you may want to fill the void with addiction. Others demand the love they want to receive by offering care, but they cannot be strong in their own feelings. Those who are unaware of their need for support and comfort, on the other hand, isolate themselves, especially when they are hurt. They see it as humiliating to demand their needs.
If I were to briefly talk about the symptoms of co-dependency:
* Painful emotions: feelings of worthlessness, inadequacy and alienation are hidden shame. We can say that there are signs of hidden shame in individuals who avoid eye contact, freeze, withdraw, sweat, drop their shoulders and bow their heads.
* Constantly trying to please others
* Feeling guilty
* Seeking perfection
What can we do to overcome co-dependence:
* Need to know your rights and limits
* Overcoming fear of rejection and abandonment
* Ability to express thoughts and feelings
*Getting help or support
* Parenting your inner child
* Increase self-confidence and self-love, self-compassion
to determine their values,
* Revealing your true personality
* Improve your spirit
* Take care of your social needs
* Realizing and taking responsibility for one’s own responsibility, etc. We can increase methods like
To summarize, my dear readers, spouse addiction is an obstacle to living a healthy relationship. However, the symptoms of co-dependence can be reversed. This is not a situation that you can get rid of once and heal forever. However, it is possible for them to enjoy themselves, life and relationships.
Stay happy with love…