Humans are born with a sense of conscience and perform behaviors and choices based on this emotion in the stages of life. This feeling of childhood 0 – 2 In the healthy emotional development phase between the ages of 16 and 18 months, the child actively follows the parent’s behaviors, models and internalizes all their positive and negative behaviors. The child does not know which of these behaviors is acceptable and which is not, and he internalizes many behaviors without knowing it. without being able to judge whether it is a positive or negative behavior, he exhibits the action he has internalized around him. The parent’s reactions to the child’s behavior begin to form the basis of the child’s personality development and emotional development. The reactions given in the emotional development stage give the child experience about his life. At the end of a certain period, the child’s life experience takes its place in his soul and these experiences develop rapidly when the child starts to think abstractly. From the age of 5, the development of conscience begins to become active in the child and gains momentum. We have the opportunity to see whether the conscience, which provides an active development, develops or not, in the attitude of the child towards his parents, towards his sibling, and towards his friends at home.
After a certain time, conscience turns into our decision mechanism, which creates our inner voice in our actions. The right or wrong decisions we make in our lives, the good or bad results of our choices, and the judgment we make as a result of the emotion we feel.. and our integrity of emotion, our conscience that develops in this process..
Our emotional integrity becomes clear between the ages of 11-13 and forms its own self. In this sense of self, we have an idea about how the child’s behavior develops a conscience with his reactions at the end.
For example, how did the child feel as a result of his mistake? How aware is the child of his misbehavior? How did he take the right step of compensation for his mistake?
Does he admit his mistake or does he not care about his misbehavior? Does he only see himself as positive in his ‘me’ feeling and every behavior? How much has the value of the person in front of you given to the self respect of ‘you’ developed?
We should not forget that the emotional development period, which goes with personality development and self-worth, is important when raising the child. How do we raise our children at these developmental stages? Is it according to our own expectation wishes or according to the unlimited wishes of the child? We want them to continue their lives as individuals in society. What are our mistakes that we know to be right but wrong while raising the child?
How aware are we that we can prevent our children from hearing their own inner voices if we take on the responsibilities that they can fulfill during their developmental period and become the ‘single control, single center’ ourselves in their lives, without limits and rules, with the punishment and reward system?
In a healthy personality development, we, the parents, should investigate what we should pay attention to and what we should avoid, and first we should ensure the integrity of the damaged and incomplete emotions in our own development, so that we can follow the developmental periods of our child in a healthy way and not be the center of their lives or the bad cops.
Let’s not forget that our children are our reflections. Without respecting their feelings and ignoring their self-esteem in their emotional developmentLet’s support.